2006-08-03 15:57:41 · 16 answers · asked by yo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well how old are you? also if you are the one who is taking care of him then she should have no say in whether or not you give your baby away. but if she takes care of it then she should have some say in the situation. But YOU are the one who gave birth to him NOT your mom. so do what you think is right.
2006-08-03 16:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by ~ goth ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sort of made a statement without giving much detail. We don't know if you are a good mother and your mother may have really good reasons for wanting you to do this. If you are supporting this baby on your own, not living at home and making one hell of an effort to do right by this child, then by all means ignore her and continue to do what you're doing. But if you are living at home, using her as your live in nanny, quit school and don't have a job...well then, I think I'll take your mother's side. Sometimes the greatest gift a mother can give her child besides life, is a better chance at life being raised by someone who is financially and emotionally ready for a child. It's a tough decision. You were smart enough to ask for advice...I think you are smart enough to do what is right.
2006-08-03 23:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother is the one that takes care of him, then she's got every right to think you can't handle the responsibility. She has raised one child and has no obligation to raise yours
If she's not the one that takes care of him, then take her beliefs and critically look at why she's saying them. Do you regularly have rent/food money? Do you have an abusive spouse/significant other? Do you neglect the baby in any way, even if you love it? Are her concerns in any way genuine... Love isn't always enough to be a good mother.
Or is she just batty because she wants you to do exactly what she wants you to do, and when you raise your child slightly different, she freaks?
You're the only one who can answer all that... well, you and child services should your mother choose to contact them.
2006-08-03 23:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are giving your baby adequate care on your own dollar then you are entitled to keep your child. However if your mother is footing the bill and picking up your slack then I'd say maybe it would be best to put him in foster care until you can get on your own two feet. I'm sorry but I for one am tired of working to pay for the idiocies of other people. I'm tired of lazy people getting rewarded for having a litter of kids they can't afford. You can have all the love in the world for your child, but in this day and age it isn't enough. If your child is a misfit in life..it all comes back to you. So if you have any doubt that your child isn't getting the best possible care, then you should let him go to someone who can.
2006-08-03 23:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by jmk_jenmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your baby so much and your mother is challenging your mothering skills. Then do the right thing and get yourself into some parenting classes. There is always room for growth. Practice what you learn and be the best mother. Take responsibility and do what is best for you and your child if you want to be the one who is doing it then be strong and an adult.
2006-08-03 23:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my oppinion i think you should take parenting classes... a number of them prove to your mom that you cant be a good mom... I don't agree with adoption but sometimes its for the better, i mean if your mom is the one raising you baby than adoption shold be an option but if your mature enugh and finacially stable where you child will gropw up in a stable, drug free enviroment than keep the baby... Do all you can to prove it to her, once again i wold recommend parenting classes and if you have to get child protection services involved,that will most definatly prove to her your a good mom( providing they do not take the baby, if they do than that simply means your not a good mom)... good luck. Hope my advice helps.
2006-08-03 23:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by ♥PrEcIoUs♥DaYdReAmEr♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom could be right. You don't say how old you are, but if you are unwed with no way to support your child, it might be best for the child to be given up for adoption. Since your mom wants you to do this, she obviously is not willing [nor must she be] to accept the responsibility. A loving mother wants to do what is best for her child, even when it breaks her heart.
2006-08-03 23:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on your age. From the way you talk I am guessing that you are young, and your mom don't want to raise another baby. You might love him, but can you care for him on your own, if you are still in school, will you be able to finish and go on to collage, can you provide for him now, and not rely on your mother or welfare? those are things to think about.
2006-08-03 23:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to thinkl about your baby first if you can't do it alone you need to look into ways of getting help.your baby has to come first not matter what.
2006-08-03 23:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about all these problems, BEFORE, you opened your legs.
2006-08-03 23:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋