with all of my heart! We have been dating for a year & a half now and prior to our courtship, we had been good friends for a couple of years. She is my best friend and we have had the best of times together. She means the world to me!
I have done a lot for her out of the kindess of my heart. I have taken her to fancy dinners. Movies. Broadway shows in NYC. Bought her an ipod nano for christmas, etc. I feel like I have run out of ideas as to what should I do next. Either to surpise her with a gift or to take her out for a special evening. Anyone have some ideas to pitch?
2006-08-03 15:50:04 · 24 answers · asked by xsportfit827 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
aww that's sweet of you. you can still do these things if you want..fancy restaurants, gifts, etc. but guys often miss out on the simple things that are as equally sweet as the fancy dinners or the gift. Do something simple, like: cook dinner for her instead of treating her out, doing sports together, leave a text message or send her flowers for no reason. One time, my boyfriend came to visit me and he stood outside my door with dandelions and said I love you(LOL). It was just one of those days where he surprises me with little things. I thought it was sweet, simple and thoughtful. Remember, it's the thought that counts!
2006-08-03 16:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by kray_z_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you are soooooo lucky to have become bf/gf with your friend. Congrats!
Anyway, it's great that you are gifting her, but it's also good (and sometimes better) to alternate between giving a physical gift and an enjoyable time.
I assume you go out at least once every week(end). Make reservations to this elegant/romantic restaurant and tell her the night before that she needs to dress up for your next date. Plan another activity before/after dinner (opera, play, etc), and surprise her as you pick her up. Hopefully, she'll have a good time; and maybe she'll want to continue the date at her place! ;)
Good luck, man! & Congratulations!
2006-08-03 23:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, u dont have to do anything extremely wild. She loves u too remeber. Just take her on a picnic of some sort with wine, cheese, and steawberries. I dont know where u live but there must be a park with some row boats or something. If all else fails, send flowers to her job, or home! and then take her out for a aurprise only you could think she would love. Relax were simple when it comes down to it. If we love you, we could go to a rodeo looking a dam mess, but if were with you we'll be just fine. ::) I hope you choose something simple with LOVE!
2006-08-03 23:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about when it gets a little cooler take her on a nice picnic. Pack a nice lunch, bring a bottle of wine, some music and just hang out and enjoy one another.
Or--
Go to the zoo and enjoy all the animals and each others company -
Or-
Plus, I like the buy her a ring idea!!! :-)
2006-08-03 22:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Remington B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you have taken her to fancy dinners maybe you should do something a little simple. Like take her to a park and take photos of her and have someone take photos of you two. Frame them.
Or write her a poem. that comes straight from the heart.
Write her a song and play it with an instrument.
do a movie night in, rent one of her favorite movies, come over with pizza. tell her to stay in her pajamas and just relax.
or you could always take her to a spa for one day where she can get a massage, a pedicure and manicure. she'd love that too.
2006-08-03 22:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are trying to buy her affection.....maybe you're not, but you are definitely training her to expect material things as a show of affection from you .
How about doing something for her so she doesn't have to? Right after she gets home from a hard day, tell her to relax and you'll get dinner. Cook something, and clean up. Women take things like this as romantic, and shows of love. Women feel like doing things to make their life better are shows of love.
Sure presents are nice from time to time, but they mean less over time, and eventually make women feel like whores that can be bought. Save the gifts for once in a while....
Try using your personality, creativity, compassion, thoughtfulness, generosity of spirit, humor, and intelligence. Quit trying to impress her. I am sure she misses you....
Do things for her to give her a break, to decompress her day in a way, to relax her. Granted, this takes more effort than buying something, but will be more valued.
Go for a picnic in the park with chicken, cheese fruit, and wine. Leave the electronic toys behind (cell phones, nano, etc) so it's just you two. Make her #1 and really appreciate her for her redeeming qualities. Tell her about the 10 things you love about her.
I am sure she likes gifts but is tired of the them. Give her the gift of yourself. Sharing your emotions and allowing yourself to be vulnerable is scary. But to a woman, it means INTIMACY, which is the greatest gift.
Knowing that you trust her, respect her, and accept her will make her feel loved. That's how you show love, not with material things or just saying the words. If you show it, she will feel it and know it.
Think about it.
Take care!
2006-08-03 23:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe...and this is just a suggestion..instead of taking her on a date..cook a meal for her and rent a movie..stay home instead of going out..or if you want to go out go do something neither of you have ever done..do you like camping..fishing..boating..jet skiing..maybe an amusement park or museum..art or history. Some of the littlest things sometimes..makes the fondest memories!!
2006-08-03 22:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by alws 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ARE too good to be true. she's a lucky girl. from personal experience, little things are what matters most. not diamonds, not iPods, but things like flowers, going for romantic walks together, dinners, picnics, maybe write down how you feel about her and read it outloud, etc. the little things always seem to not only be the sweetest, but the most meaningful. goood luck!
2006-08-03 22:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Hayley! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just giving of yourself and stop trying to "buy" her with gifts!! That is not what it is all about!!! Really!!! I was a hospice nurse and dealt with death and dying on a daily basis and I know for a fact that when it is all said and done.....it is people who matter....the ones you love and those who love you. Never.....never once did I hear anyone say on their death bed that they wished they would have made more money, bought more "toys", and showered more gifts on people......Never! All they ever wanted was the people who they loved. Look within yourself.....instead of on the shelves of stores!!!
2006-08-03 22:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her something! Either entire dinner from scratch, a wooden box to keep memories from your dates, a beaded bracelet, anything really. Taking the time and effort to make something your self means a lot, my husband made me a headboard one year and it is my favorite gift he has ever given me. That OR you could propose!! :)
2006-08-03 22:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋