OK guys, i in a relationship where we are both just having casual sex.... and no strings...... this guy takes good care of him self goes to the gym and could get any gurl he wanted, what i would like to know is did he choose me beacuse of my personality, my looks, or did he just choose me beacuse i was their....??? what do you look for in a gurl where you want to have a lasting relationsihp where it is just sex.....
P.S i wasnt "easy" so i dont think thats why he chose me.
2006-08-03 15:50:04 · 20 answers · asked by prettybee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm... To be fair, the no-casual-sex crowd has some decent points. To be equally fair, enough people in that crowd tend to have enough sexual 'relationships' each year that I don't think they're any better. Welcome to hormone-ville. My answer:
Most guys dream of a no-strings-attached relationship where they can just get off, without worrying about anything else. As such, a few things probably went into the decision:
A) No STD's - this is the reason most guys don't end up going for just-sex relationships - most girls who are willing to have just casual sex are willing to do it with anyone, and thus have a lot of STD's. Thus, he probably figured you'd be safe somehow (i.e., you're young, inexperienced, or perhaps you are indeed very hard to get - I wouldn't know). So that probably played a factor: He thought you were clean.
B) No Strings - As in, you aren't going to start crushing on him. Guys would worry they'll get into a relationship that starts off just being good sex, but then the other person will start having feelings. That's a problem. So for some reason or another, he didn't feel you were a very emotionally based person, or that you would suddenly think things between you were more than they actually are.
C) He obviously finds you physically attractive. If he could have any girl he wants, then he thinks you're up there in terms of looks.
D) There are many guys who would, indeed, care about personality - even in a ****-buddy. Nobody likes whining, temper tantrums, or really awkward or disturbing after-sex chats. He can't completely avoid connecting with you as a human being, and thus he may very well have also liked your personality - to be honest, personality can be a huge turn on. It's definitely something I'd look for if I were into that type of game.
So, in conclusion, it was probably a whole lot of factors. The best way to find out would be to ask him, and to take a look at what part of you he appreciates most often - obviously he likes your physical side, but does he talk to you a lot, too? Maybe he likes your personality. Does he ask you things, and really listen to your answers? Maybe he thinks you're clever or smart. Does he play games with you? Maybe he thinks you're a fun person.
One way or the other, I hope you find what you're looking for.
2006-08-03 19:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 42⤊ 13⤋
Maybe you looked like you do things that other girls wouldn't and so he was willing to wait it out in order to get some. Are you still giving it to him? Open relationship-no wonder why he likes you. Just sex and no strings attached, he choose you just for those reasons. And if you're letting him, even if you didn't jump in the sack right away, he still thinks you're easy.
2006-08-03 23:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle Hossain Lota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's in it only for the sex, he honestly doesn't care about your personality and sense of humor. This is his checklist of things that he looks for in you:
1. Is she hot?
2. Does she take it in the asss?
3. Is she freaky?
4. Does she give good BJ's?
5. is she able to have sex with me frequently?
That's it. He isn't asking himself "I wonder what her personality is like" or "does she like unicorns?" No, if it's only a sexual relationship, then he is only interested in the sex.
2006-08-03 22:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh please u know u were easy just the fact that u wanted a relationship with casual sex and no strings means ur a freakin whore cuz if u weren't then u would have been looking for more than that and sent him to hell from the gate...so i would say u were just the kind of trashy whore he always wanted and more
2006-08-04 00:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by babygirla718 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having casual sex, or any sex before you're married. It's old fashioned, but it's really the best advice I can give you. You won't find be able to find a man, most probably, but if you do, he'll be worth it.
2006-08-03 23:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah, not being easy could totally be it. There is nothing better to brag about at work or in the gym than a difficult conquest.
2006-08-03 22:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny Canuck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know but i do not see any future in your relationship...he could like you for many reasons but if he can go out with who he pleases that is not good at all...you need to find someone that you love and that loves you...and then you can plan on a future...wasting years on someone that justs wants you for sex and does not want to make a commitment is not good at all....think enough of your self to make a stand and say that he just sees you and no one else or it is over...and that is if he plans to commit to a relationship with you.. i wasted 23 years of my life with a abusive , adultery, no good so and so and i am alone now...i have my sons , sort of but they learned so much of their dads ways and their stepdads ways that they do not have much respect for a woman either...so think more of yourself and do what is good for you...now and in the future..
2006-08-03 22:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wasnt easy? u sound like a pro in tis n u still wanna ask. ok i like it when we r making it out in the room u r so passionate n when we mit on the streets just hi n byee. then i tink it will last 4ever
2006-08-03 22:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look for good looking girls with nice personality and outgoing in everyway. I don't go for the girls who get less than 75% in Unversity level courses.
2006-08-03 22:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by The_Pool_Pro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen hun sry to break this to you but no matter how hard you thought you were he thinks you were twice as easy. while he was eating your brain he was ******* 4 other girls so if you gave it up or not didnt matter cuz you were just in line. if you gave it up good for him he adds another notch to his belt. if you didnt blan b, c, d e, and f were there waiting.
2006-08-03 23:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by link7506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he picked you cause you're hot. I think he stayed with you because you had a lot more going on than just looks. Either way, he stayed for a reason.
2006-08-03 22:54:40 · answer #11 · answered by Mikey B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋