Hey well First of I am not gay, bi, curious or anything else like that. I don't know what the hell happened. I was hanging out talking with my fiance's dad got really drunk, and the next morning I woke up naked in bed with him. I know what you're gonna say that how do I know that we actually did anything together. Trust me I know. I wont say how, but I know. I didn't say anything to her dad when I woke up. He was still asleep so I just left. I just don't know what to do. We're getting married next month. I know I have to tell her. I also know it's really gonna **** things up. I just don't know how to tell her, or what to do. Also, I don't know how to face her dad, and discuss it. Someone please help me with this mess. If anyone has any advice I'd love to hear it.
2006-08-03 15:33:13 · 13 answers · asked by Steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say you don't know what happened... when you say you got drunk that's what happened..she might freak.. and call off the wedding when you tell her.. talk to her dad first and if he doesn't remember anything... you MIGHT not want to ruin your love by telling her. it is seriously up to you. but if you are going to tell her, dint wait until after the wedding. If you to are truly in love you will be able to get Through the storm and dance in the rain.
2006-08-03 15:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by hott_mandi42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 scenarios, each have 2 subscenarios:
A. Tell her the truth
GOOD 1. Tell her the whole truth before it gets worse and she may forgive you for doing so
BAD 2. Tell her and your wedding is off...or worse, you two are over
B. Do Not Tell her the truth
GOOD 1. Wedding is still on
BAD 2. You live with the guilt and she may sooner or later find out what happened..and therefore she may have a hard time trusting you again..or she'll leave you..
There are some things to ponder upon. I understand that you're really in a bad situation right now. I personally think that you should tell her the truth. Explain to her what had happened. Anyway, think what is best for you. Good luck man!
Oh and you might wanna control your drinking...you don't want to sleep with the in-law again :S
2006-08-03 22:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by kray_z_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sucks being you. Seriously, I wouldn't tell, her. I can't believe I would say that. but if you KNOW you are not gay yada yada yada you will just end up hurting her. 1. She will probably hate her dad, as well as you. 2. She already has everything and most things done for your wedding. The only thing is you need to talk w/ her Dad first I am sure he does not want this getting out as well. Just make sure she can never find this out, it would devestate her when you two have babies and she found out you boinked the dad. regardless of the sitution, that will ruin everything for everyone.Good Luck!!
2006-08-03 22:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honetly think no matter what level of alcohol you don't love your finacee at all in order to do that and seriously if you can **** your apparent fiancees father youll **** anything that is sick he'd have to be live 20 yrs older then you unless your finacee is 10 but by the looks of this question anything is possible good luck getting out of this one i hope she tells eveeyone in your town and you are never able to live it down!!!
2006-08-03 22:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything.. why make her feel like crap because you f'ed up? Just break off the engagement.. and go get an HIV test.. you don't know how many of her fiance's he has done that with.. I bet you weren't the first..
2006-08-03 22:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. I WOULD TALK TO THEM TOGETHER. DON'T KEEP THIS IN. HANDLE IT BEFORE THE WEDDING AND IF THE MOTHER IS MARRIED TO HIM STILL, INVOLVE HER. KEPT A SECRET WILL ONLY WRECK THINGS EVENTUALLY. BE STRONG AND GO FOR IT. THERE WILL BE A RESPECT FOR YOU FOR THAT. AND YOU WILL LIKE YOURSELF MORE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. GOOD FOR YOU BEING OPEN AND HONEST. BEST WISHES.
2006-08-03 22:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam, How did you screw that up. Never drink with soon to be in laws. Well we know you won't be walking to a wedding masrch asnytime soon. Better tell her soon.
2006-08-03 22:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by J J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her as you said, but just find a way to say it like both of you get really drunk together and tell her then. she may remember it later but it is important she doesnt get super pissed at you when you tell her
2006-08-03 22:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow man i think u shoulda kept this bedtime story to urself. godspeed on gettin outta this mess
2006-08-03 22:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by dbmistry88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good god this is one of those things u keep a secret. sorry man that was ****** up and idk what to tell you. good luck, cause she will leave you and if hes married then his wife will leave him.
2006-08-03 22:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by Eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋