Currently dating an Indian guy and his parents didn't approve it, what should i do?

Question

Hi, I am dating an Indian guy but his family only believes in arranged marriage. So, we have to hide our relationship and we rarely go out on a date. Is this relationship going to work out?
Are there any people with indian background can recommend me what to do? or tell me a little bit about the indian background? Why arrange marriage? What do indian parents think of their kids going out with an non-indian?

Answer 1

well... I'm not indian... but my girlfriend is, and I've studied india extensively....
...
ok here we go:
where do you want me to start?
the indus?
or post arayan?
sidhartha gottama?
ashoka?
or sirus of persia??
or alexander?
or the british?
or ghandi?
historically


at any rate what you need to understand is the following:
arrainged marriage is the social norm. it allows for the following:
the release of attachment to your family.
the release of attachment is a basic tenure in both hinduism and budhism, two prominant relegions which call their origians to india. it also allows the family to control the children. in many eastern countries (esp. china w/ confucianism) the family was, and often, unforunately still is organized hierarchically as such:
sister obeys brother
young children obey mother
mother obeys grown male children
all children obey father
wife obeys husband
husband obeys patriarch
this method forces the continuation of the family. it also severely undervaules women. they are subservient to everybody. this is personally just wrong. now arainged marriage is an expression of this undervaluing: they basically sell their daughters to their future husbands. it's like slavery. (I am a feminist, look up the word.)
this was also a method of keeping marriage within your own caste.

well that was then:
this is now:
caste has been abolished.
dowly outlawed.
arrianged marriage highly discouraged/ forbidden... though it's still practiced.
the country is rapidly modernizing.
people are starting to believe in love.

now then:
what I have to say:
ok
1) have your parents arrainge your marriage with him
lol conformist you. just make it clear to your future fiance you will NOT be the clasic subservient indian woman. if either party refuses continue.
2) if you two end up engaged. go to your parents and do number one. then if the guy's parents say no, then point out that they can either follow through or you'll get married in the clasic western method.
3) walk in and explain in very great detail to the parents the concept of the love match, it's place in the society in which their son lives and is going to end up marrying in.
4) walk in and explain to the parents in very great detail what you people are going to do... namely get married.
5) have him elope
6) elope on both sides (lol)
7) decide it won't work out <-- I highly discourage this one

also: is this guy hindu, budhist or moslem
it does matter.

learn about his relegion. a lot about his relegion, openmindedly!
see how well it meshes with what you believe.

if you need anything else don't heistate to contact me, I'll be checking this question pariodically so if you update, so will I.
g'day.

Answer 2

a million) IF your boyfriend isn't going to get up in your dating to his mother and father, I suppose that your dating isn't headed at any place, suppose me reason I'm Indian. The best factor you'll be able to do is to drive you bf to allow it out two) Indian heritage... God, girll.... you are asking me anything that even I become aware of anything new on a day-to-day foundation... three) Arranged marriage... Ah... Keeps the household and society joyful perse, reason your kids are marrying the correct type, from the correct variety of household or and such a lot importantly Indian, from the identical faith and caste (that is social status) four) Most mother and father are cool approximately it, eventhough from individual revel in, they under no circumstances truthfully approve of it outright however do it for the sake of the kid's happiness... It particularly will depend on the mind-set of the household, how open they're to this? In your case, I do not wish to provide to a lot desire to you except your bf is courageous sufficient to stand his mother and father and the never-ending household and spouse and children... Sorry, I simply being sincere right here.. I'm cool with it regardless that however suppose even I'm stressed so far (no less than) and marry an Indian woman...

Answer 3

im indian and in the long run it may or may not. the thing is, either you have to go guns blazing and break the tradition or ur gonna have to let him go cause a lot of indian guys out there lookin for a girl are having a hard time b/c of their traditional parents. i guarantee though that most of these troubled guys wont have a problem with their kid dating so the kids dont have to go through wat they did

Answer 4

ok at frist i tought you asking about native american now afyer reading your letterb i think you mean a indain from i
nda sorry can not help