Ok, guys I need your help. I dated this guy for 2 years, but he cheated on me the entire time, with multiple girls. Now his friend (was best friend in college) and I have been kind of talking. Anyways, a few weeks ago we talked every night for about an hour, then he ran into my ex, his friend. Since then he has been kind of stand offish. He told me that my ex gave him a lot of crap for talking to me. I guess what I'm trying to say is what would you do? I like this guy and know that he likes me, but don't know if its worth my time to get overly involved. I dont want to get hurt again!!
2006-08-03 15:18:47 · 21 answers · asked by kef588 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would date you in this situation because I have been around enough to know that there is always 2 sides to every story. If he kinda likes ya, then he should see for himself instead of someone telling him his future.
2006-08-03 15:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by ZIAGACITY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe this is being a bit judgemental but...
"birds of a feather, flock together" so if your worried about being hurt again maybe you should look somewhere else...
it sounds as tho the ball is outta your court now anyway love, if this new guy has become stand offish, maybe he has decided not to act upon his feelings (which there obviously were feelings, coz no guy would talk to a girl for an hour every nite unless he liked her in that way right?)
If i were you I would consider that person outta bounds as new relationship material. You will only end up using your ex's friend as a rebound or end up getting a reputation (and you dont want that)
However, it is totally cool for the 2 of you to consider each other friends and if he is willing to support you emotionally as a friend when your a bit down then that's great but i wouldnt get more involved than that.
2006-08-03 15:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason this guy you like is kinda stand offish is because your ex probably get pissed at him for talking to you, another thing could be maybe your ex said some stuff (lied) about you or maybe he feels the same way you do and doesn't want anything to get in the way of his friendship with either you or your ex, considering they are friends. The question is are you sure he feels for you, the same way you feel about him?? if so i would confront him, and ask him whats the deal? If it were me and i knew we both felt the same towards each other i would ask him where do we stand? , where do we go from here? Is my ex gonna get in the way of us having a relationship.... and WHY? Good luck on that honey, hope it works out for you!!
2006-08-03 15:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain things in life that men are very childish about. your friend dating one of your Ex is one of those things. It is an unwritten rule all boys know, as the saying goes bros over Ho***. It is probably better if you dont date this guy because its going to cause alot of drama. If your Ex cheated on you, chances are that this friend of your Ex knew about it and let it continue. So, do you really think he is going to be any different. Find a better guy, you deserve better, no one should treat another like the way your ex treated you.
2006-08-03 15:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by a_rajalonghorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first 2 boyfriends were best frinds...he dumped me and moved away later on that year and his best friend stopped by my house like 9 months after he'd moved.We got 2gether a couple months later(I lost my virginity to him)and broke up after 9 months of being 2gether.My ex didnt know about the relationship(I had no contact with him) until a few weeks prior to breaking up.I dont speak to either of them anymore but they are still buds to this day.
2006-08-03 15:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Direktor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha, this exact same thing happened to me, except I was the friend. :P I ended up going with the girl over the guy, which wasn't that huge of a deal since we weren't great friends anyway. But if I were you, I would try to stay out if it. This is their problem to work out right now.
2006-08-03 15:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by Thalias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you both like one another, the fact that he's giving you the cold shoulder should tell you that he's listening to what his friend has to say about you instead of finding out for himself, therefore he half believes him, so move around & find someone else to occupy your time with. Don't waste anymore on him. You'll be better off & you will avoid being hurt
2006-08-03 15:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by ms_purple_pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the guys perspective. Personally, my ex's friends hit on me a lot. Talk to your ex's friend about how he feels about the situation. If he's okay with it then go for it! But if not, don't break up their friendship.
2006-08-03 15:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man law 101-345 states "A guy must wait no less than 2 years before he can date his bestfriends EX". I would have to agree to this law
2006-08-03 15:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay I know how that is one of my ex's friends had asked me out and I turned him down now I do regret that choice. now I have also had it turned around my boyfriends exgf is one of my best friends and he turned her down for me I really am sorry for my friend and I hope she is not mad but I a happy and she was pushing 4 me to say yes to him and I really am glad she did so I am so happy, and I think she is happy for me because she has not seen so happy before she even said so herself!! so sorry u probly didn't want all of that lol. I hoped this helps and this can be this could be your mad I know getting hurt like that is horrible but you need to see if this the guy for u okay because if u don't you will regret it trust me so it is worth it!!!
I luv u all
~sammy~
2006-08-03 15:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋