After a fight, what is the best way to make up with your boyfriend? (nothing sexual)?

Question

We were fighting because he swore to me he would tell me when he talked to other girls on the phone and i saw his phone bill and he had been talking to this one girl for like an hour and a half at least once a week, and hadn't told me about it. So i confronted him about it and he was really upset and threatened to break up with me. We have kind of made up but he is still acting strange...

Answer 1

By not making up.
Resolve the issue that is causing your fights when things are normal. When you fight, be logical and open minded. Don’t expect the fight to resolve anything, they rarely do. After the fight, don’t make a production of ‘making up,’ simply return to life as normal.
Too many people bottle things up and then let loose when it’s time for a fight. This is insane. How is your partner to change offending behaviors if you hold your feelings about it in? Is your partner really going to be listening to your feelings in the middle of an argument? Down time is the best time to express yourself, you both should be in a more receptive frame of mind. If this causes a fight then there is some other issue that needs to be addressed, look for this.
Communicate with your partner constantly and consistently. Make your views known in the moment. The best way to make up is to use strong communication skills and mutual respect to avoid the fight.
Most importantly, realize that fights are not about right and wrong. It is totally possible, and even common, for two people who are completely correct under their own paradigm to end up in an argument with one another. if you are arguing to prove the other wrong, you are simply beaten before you begin. By the other person’s POV you are wrong, thus, any point you try to make is perceived as you trying to justify your wrong opinion. Instead argue to share ideas and feelings. The other person can easily concede that you feel a given way because you know yourself better than they do. This creates common ground and that is what successfully ends an argument.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yes, an apology. Let him feels that u still need his care & concern, and 2 u, u still want him 2 care, 2 concern & 2 luv. Ask him 4 a date - 4 a show, 2 dine. Let him 2 decide. If possible, don't let things happen again. Remember, this ur 1st lesson. I don't think u like 2b the person who always make the apology, 2 give ways & 2 make the 1st move. U still have the opportunity. Good Luck.

Answer 4

If you know you were wrong, apologize.

If you know he was wrong, apologize for something YOU could have done better -- ex. "I wish I hadn't yelled at you" -- and then tell him how you felt -- ex. "but I was hurt when you forgot to pick me up."

Suggest, plan, and carry out something fun for just the two of you. If you are a girl and you usually let him take the initiative, it will be a nice change for you to invite him on a date and it will show that you still feel affection for him.

Answer 5

An apology and then just go out and have fun. Watching a movie toigether is good or me and my bf go for walks or rollerblade

Answer 6

Don't mention the situation. Make him dinner or something and just watch a funny movie to lighten things up.

Answer 7

Well this never happened to me, but...you should plan to go somewhere with him . After planning(by ur self) you call him and ask him to meet you somewhere. then you should take a taxi with him and go to your planned place. And then you kiss him. And maybe you could do a small sexual thing.

Answer 8

Go somewhere nice, quiet and relaxing like the beach and talk about things.

Answer 9

Find something that he's done that you like and praise him for it. For example, if he washes your car and takes it for servicing or to get gas, you can thank him and tell him how much it means to you that you never have to worry about that.

Answer 10

A heart felt apology.