My ex- boyfriend say's he's going for full custody of my daughter?

Question

Can someone talk to me ? i have a 5month old daughter that i love so much my daughter' father say's he's going for full custody how can he go for full custody he's saying that i'm an unfit mother and there's no proof i have people with all the time when i'm with my daughter my family say's it's really hard for father to take a baby away from it's mother plz some one talk to i'm scared

Answer 1

DON'T FREAK OUT!!!!! THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO WAY THAT WILL HAPPEN!!! I know this because I have 3 kids and my ex tried to prove me unfit because he was mad at me because I finally left a abusive relationship and his best friend helped me.Judges do not like to take children from their mother,unless there is hard evidence that you are completely unfit and that's a hard thing to prove unless you have recently been involved with children and family services(the people who investigate child abuse) and they prove you to be a unfit parent,but like I said judges don't usually let fathers have custody if there's no reason why the mother can not raise the kids.Everything will be fine,this guy is trying to hurt you because of something you did to make him mad at you,and he knows you love your kids and he's using this against you.He probably won't even go through with it,he just wants to make you squirm awhile-it's twisted I know!

Answer 2

I've been through this however, my children were old enough to say who they wanted to live with. It is very hard for a father to get full custody of a child. Unless, he can prove you unfit. That is very hard. If you are not unfit then you have nothing to be worried about. You be open in court (if it goes that far) and be willing to give him visitation rights. That is, if he is not unfit. He is more than likely trying to scare you for some reason. Very often a man will say this to get some kind of reaction. Also, more than likely he will not push it this far. A child at this young age needs her mother and that's the way most judges see it. Calm down. Be strong and confident. You have a baby to take care of! Things will work out! God bless and good luck!

Answer 3

From my experince in these custody battle's your boy friend and you have never been married.Have you?Have you lived together? And if so how long? Does he have a criminal background?Does the baby have his last name? If there is a Yes to this one question. He has just as much right to taking the baby as you do. Until this is resolved in court. You need to hire an Attorney quickly. Because if he hire's an Attorney before you do. You will not only be paying child support. He will get custody.Especially if he has picture's proving his hear say comments. If you have to get a restraining order .But this has to be the result of some kind of vilonce or threat by him. Hope this helps.good-Luck

Answer 4

Your family and friends are right it is very hard to just take away a child from his/her mother much less gain sole custody. The burden of proof will be on him to prove that your unfit.. and unfortunately he may attempt to play unfair by drudging up stuff from your past that may hurt you. If your employed and have the means to provide and care for your daughter then he will be unsuccsessfull. I work with women who battle this everyday however the difference in their case is that they are imprisoned, strung out on drugs and have proved to be an unfit caretaker for their children but even many of them still retain custody. So don't worry to much, the law is on your side when it comes to these things but ASAP research and talk to a family lawyer about your chances if there is any concern. Wish you much luck.

Answer 5

i'm sorry to hear you have fallen into this all too often seen scenario.
despite the fact that it is not the norm to remove a child fromit's mother it can and has happened.
our system is set up in a way that most courts hesitate to remove a child from it's mother even under the most diar situations.
however if push comes to shove the courts will do what is in the best interest of the child.
i do not know the circumstances of your conflict with your ex or what brought all this on.
however the best advise i can give to the both of you is to try to be civil to one another and do your best to get along,for the sake of the child you brought into this world and both adore.
she will love you both unconditionally and it is not fair to ask any child to chose between two parents.
if the courts see that your fighting and friction with eachother is affecting your child they can and will remove the child from the home and place the child in foster care.
they always do what is in the childs best interest. it isn't good for your baby to see mommy and daddy fighting, no matter what the reason is.
many times the court will undoubtedly see that one of the two parents is extremely difficult to reason with and will award custody to the other and give the visitation rights to one.
this is done because they want to avoid future conflicts in the childs life.
one parent will make all pertinent decisions and the other will just have to suck it up, so to speak.
be weary of what you say and do in front of your child the courts will asign a legal guardian to represent your child if the parents are unreasonable with one another.
the legal guardian's job is to advise the judge as to what would be the best decision for the child...living with mommy, daddy or someone else.
good luck to you and yours
eva

Answer 6

She's his daughter too.

It's too bad that the courts favor women so much in custody cases. There are plenty of unfit mothers that have custody. Being an unmarried mother doesn't strike me as being overwhelming positive trait for a 'fit' mother.

I wish your ex all the best.

Answer 7

My cousin's ex-boyfriend tried to do the same thing. A guy has to show hard proof that a person is unfit before a judge would take a baby from its mother. If you are a good mother, he doesn't have a chance :)

Answer 8

First he has to prove you are an unfit mother. Go to a Lawer as soon as you can. If you can't afford a Lawer go to Legal Aid. He also has to prove he would be a good father. He may just be trying to scare you into not making him pay child support. Do you go to church? If you do ask your Pastor to help. Is your family backing you? Don't let him scare you. fight back. You don't say how old you are. Or how old he is. You sound young. He sounds like a jerk. Keep your spirits up. It not so easy for a man to take a child from her mother. Let us know what happens.

Answer 9

It is possible that he can obtain full custody. That is becoming more and more common today. It is quite difficult for an ex-boyfriend to get full custody of his child, but it can be done. Different states have different rules.

You will need very good legal representation. You may also wish to contact women's rights or women's protection groups in your area.

Oh, and if he obtains custody, you may be responsible for child support. Get a good attorney and make sure you aren't engaging in any behavior that others could interpret as endangering a child.

Answer 10

Don't panic and keep calm. I went through the same thing.

The most important thing to do is for you to be smart. If you can afford an attorney, then hire one and he will represent you in court. If you can't afford an attorney, let him claim whatever he wants. He's got the burden of proof and if he doesn't have concrete evidence, i.e., drug, alcohol, phsycial abuse, then his case will never make it to court.

He can file for custody and he may get shared custody.

Remember, he is the father and he should be paying child support. If he isn't, YOU can take HIM to court.

Good luck!