Is it wrong to change where you go to church?

Question

I still love God,but I`m having trouble with bad feelings with someone in the church actually its my sister-in -law,I have went to this church my whole life and she wanted to find a good church to go to so I took her to my church with me,well,she loved it but its like she came in and took over.Anything she does,she throws her whole self into it and has to be the center of attention.If it was possible she would take the pasters place.She has taken leadership classes our town ,she will probabaly run for mayor.She has been voted assistant to the women`s ministry.She braggs on herself all the time ,she wrote an article about herself in the newspaper telling everyone how wonderful she is and how good her business is doing!I know it probably sounds like I`m jealous but I promise you I`m not, my skin crawls to be in the same room.with her.These are the reasons I feel so bad,I`m supposed to love everybody and I CAN`T STAND HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Melissa T ,sorry you haven`t been exposed,but you would be a #1 member of her fan club

Answer 1

You need to be where you are really there to worship the GREAT GOD! Not some silly social club,or buffet line...And praising oneself is WRONG--it is VANITY,PRIDE,and SELFISH! GOD is selfLESS!...You step out and be where you want to be! Don't let some puny weak man or woman dictate to you where you are going to go to appear before your GOD! As far as your feelings for her,tell your Father---(GOD is a Father after all!) and He will direct you in the direction you should go...The end of all things is this:GOD is training YOU to become a Royal Princess in His Family! Avoid anyone who tries to take you away from that great calling! People who are subtracting from you are not adding anything of worth to your life!...My Best To You!

Answer 2

First you have to look at your walk with Christ. You have to know if you are truly modeling your life after that if Christ. Reason for that is you won't be able to get past the sister-in-law, if you aren't right with Christ. Not saying that you aren't just saying it is the starting point.

Stand back and look at what is going on. Has the things of church become a show case for the person or a place to worship God? Do you feel the Love Of Jesus there or do you see the importance of man? Are people there for show? Is there anything behind the faith they claim? What do their actions say about them?

Jesus said by your actions the world will know. What do their actions say? By your actions your faith will be affirmed or it will be condemned. Once you address this in yourself and you have centered yourself in Christ then you will be able to look outward.

Look at what is going on through the eyes of Jesus, What do you see? If there is selfishness then by all means find another church. But understand something when you do, ask yourself are you caring the same baggage with you there that you had where you are now? If you do then the same problems will follow they will just have different faces and different names.

Go search for a place where you feel Love and hear the Word preached. If you don't feel the Love of Christ when you walk in the door then don't go back. Judge the fruits in all and measure it to the teachings of Christ and you will know.

Answer 3

You are probably just a little jealous (since it was your church first) and perhaps slightly embarrassed that she seems to have gone overboard in her enthusiasm for leadership roles within the church and in your town. I have worked in a church and have been a church member for many years and I have seen this again and again. You must get on with your worshipping life and leave the business side of the church to her. Go to services, volunteer if there something you are interested in doing, and don't be afraid that you will be compared to her if you don't get as involved as she is. You are not involved in church life and worshipping for that. Think about how you would feel if this was someone just as involved who wasn't your sister. What then?You are there because you love God and God loves you. Stay and worship the Lord. There's room for everyone in God' heart!

Answer 4

The leadership of that church must be very weak... there is uch more to it than you have given for sure...and there is no way to answer you effectifly here...But, No it is not wrong to change churches for the right reasons... but I suspect that the reasons given are not enough... If it is causing trouble in the congrigation then you need to go to her and talk about it...if she dose not modify her position then you need to go to the church leadership and discuss it with them... if they think it is a problem they need to deal with it... if they do not... then find a different church home if you can not effectivly mature in God's Word at that one.

Answer 5

We've all known people like this; they lose friends (and family) because of their behavior but probably will never understand what it is that drives us all crazy. It's really their own insecurities, which come out the opposite. In a way, it can be an illness.

But you don't have to - and can't really - love everyone in the same way; just don't hate. (You don't seem like the hating type! I think you're clear here.) I truly believe we're supposed to live and let live with people like this, but sometimes we need to live in a different corner. Switch churches if you need to, to be comfortable with your own worship.

Answer 6

It is okay to change where you go to church. Sounds like your sister-in-law is a nut... getting a support group that can be free of her influence might be a healthy thing for you. Take care of yourself.

People come into our lives to teach us a lesson. If there is a lesson to be learned here, distance may give you a different perspective on whatever that lesson is supposed to be... eventually you may want to go back to your church, but for now I would seek new friends and experiences.

Answer 7

You have quite a situation here - I can tell you that people who do these things fall flat on their face sooner or later. Also remember - Church is to give praise to God - anyone looking for self-praise may get their praise here - but defiantly will not get it there(Heaven).

Check out http://www.johnfourteen.com from John 14 in the Bible
Look at "Studies in the Bible" and "Lessons from the Pulpit"
many answers to everyday life can be found there.

Answer 8

The issue here is about your opinion of and relationship with your sister in law. The church is simply the most public vehicle for noticing the issue. I would really hope, regardless of where you worship God, you find ways to start building bridges and healing the present state of affairs between you both.

Answer 9

God gave us a choice and I have never read anywhere.that we have to like every one.
All God has asked is to treat people with respect. If you really don;t like her you have that right.
And finding a new Church is not a bad thing.
I my self don't feel the need to go to church.
I hold God in my home and heart daily.

Answer 10

it is not wrong to change churches, but just make sure you deal with your offense....not that she is doing things right i'm not sure of the specifics like how large is your church that you feel she wants to take over...aren't there friends and people in your church that you hang out with....??? anyway find a church that teaches the uncompromising Word of God and go there for the right reasons---to grow in the things of God to become the woman of God that God has preplanned for you to be---and to do the things HE has purposed for your life!