Should i give my real dad a second chance?

Question

should i give him a chance... My dad left me and my mother when i was 2 months and now he wants to be thier. He favors my step brother over me all the time. My dads whole family likes me the least. When i ask my dad for money for school he gives me $40.00 he gave my brother 200 and sent him to a private school. I go to a public school . My daughter side still defends him when it comes to my mother. But slowly i realize i hate him. Should i give him a second chance or just tell him i don't want to see him any more?

Answer 1

You and your dad need to get together privately so you can ask him about these things, and let him explain himself. Maybe things aren't really as they seem

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your dad is so badly handled by him. I think it would help you to make a decision if you confronted your dad, regarding your feelings about the favoritism, as well as you believing that his family favors your step-brother as well. Be honest with him, without being disrespectful or accusing. Give him the facts you listed here. Write down what you feel he has done to make you feel "second class" and be prepared for discussion. Once you've heard him out, take some time to decide if it would be better for you to simply step away a bit and enjoy your life.

If the route you choose is to distance yourself from your dad start by looking ahead at all the glorious opportunities that lie ahead of you. You have a wonderful life yet to experience.

If you choose to remain closely connected to your dad, it's important that you tell him when you see him favor your step-brother. Call him on it. But remember to be respectful. Hopefully, this will make him more aware of your feelings. If not, move on.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell him how you feel about the money and the school. If you can't tell him to his face, put it in a letter and tell him how badly in hurts. Tell him about any other things that bother you too. Your daughter side will never stop wanting him to be a father to you so I'd hate to see you try to extinguish it. It's really tough when parents aren't fair so let him know.
One more thing, don't let ANYONE tell you something like "Oh you shouldn't feel that way blah, blah, blah. You have a perfect right to your feelings, they don't hurt anybody else, and you have the right to express them.

Answer 4

You say "My dads whole family likes me the least."May be your a whiner,a whinger,a difficult spoiled brat,who knows???,if they all cant stand you maybe you need to look at your self.,

give him a chance but its a male your dealing with so i think you know already its not going to work out,He prolly cant cope with your constant woe is me,god i need pitty attitude.
But if that's harsh and not correct,
If he gave a toss ,don't you think he`d do and give and say more.
Personally i`d tell him to take a hike,Stick his money up his **** and be happy with what ever school mummy can afford.
Go up to your mother and hug her ,give her a smile and say ,"Mar i don't need no male to educate me","I got you and my clever brain and i can be what ever i want.
If hes a good bloke hell come to you and it will all work out,Your the child,just back off and do your home work..

Answer 5

You don't like him. He hasn't given you the lifelong attention a child deserves from a parent, so you have no obligation to him. Unless you have strong evidence that he is likely to change his relationship with you for the better, such that you will find some real happiness in it, it is seems much smarter stop seeing him.

It is your life of course, but that's how things look to me, from what you wrote.

Answer 6

Opportunity Knocks. You have the choice to open the door, but you need to deal with your issues, if he is willing to listen and willing to work with you, even if that means getting professional help, to effect a positive change it could be well worth it.

Answer 7

Have a kinfolk dinner and invite Fred*! Ask him to be on his perfect habit and actual attempt to impression your mum and dad! You mean alot to them and that they only dont choose you with somebody they dont think of is physically powerful sufficient for you!! <'33 sturdy success!!!

Answer 8

sounds like he is bringing you down. Even if he is your father, it doesn't sound like he's doing what is right for you. If he wants to be there 100 percent, then I say yes. Nobody needs a half-hearted dad.

Answer 9

well first of all, you should tell him exactly how he makes you feel and if he gets all defensive about it then no don't give him a chance, but if he is sincere and concerned with the situation then give it another chance! good luck

Answer 10

realize what kind of man he is. we all need chances, many, but until he really attempts, don't look for a close relationship. respect the chair, if not the one who sits in it.