let me first begin by saying i did not ask for this information. i did not want to know this! my boyfriend and i were talking about something completely off topic, and then he revealed to me how his ex-fiance would cook dinner for him in lingerie, and then feed him the food while f***ing him. EWWW!!! way too much info! now thats all i can think of. hes always trying to get me to cook for him, but i cant even bear the thought, for that image simply wont go away. its like its forever embedded in my mind. i feel i couldnt ever compete with THAT! and besides, im not about to copy what she's already done. please help me! i feel like im obsessed and i just cant get over this!!
2006-08-03 14:04:37 · 10 answers · asked by honey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find somebody new if you can't get over it.......ok
2006-08-03 14:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by William E A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that he 'accidentally' told you?!?! My guess is that he told you to see how you'd react and if you'd be up for it. Just be honest with him. Sit down and tell him how you feel. Tell him that "when you mentioned the whole cooking in lingerie deal it's been playing on my mind. Is that something that you'd want/expect me to do for you as well?" then go on to tell him how it made you feel to know this stuff. If you don't want to do that kinda thing THEN DON'T and just tell him why. Don't be weird about it tho, coz obviously he's into that kinda thing and to get all EWWW with him is going to make him feel uncomfortable. - don't feel like you have to do it to keep him, if that's the case then as much as you love him it's probably not a good relationship to be in. The best thing to do is to be HONEST both with him and with YOURSELF. Stay true to yourself and you'll always be happy - even if a bit of heartbreak happens in the beginning. Personally it sounds a bit odd to me, but then again we're all different aren't we :-) Good for you for asking advice and not just letting the thoughts drive you crazy!! You could always surf the web and find a romantic thing that you are comfortable with that you could do for him. If you just surprise him with something that makes YOU feel sexy then trust me, he'll love it and you'll love it too because YOU feel ok about it?? Get it :-) ???
2006-08-03 21:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by rizzo6eleven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is sharing his fantasy with you what's wrong with trying this.yes it is wrong that he mentioned his ex in the same sentence as a fantasy that he would like you to fulfill.Tell him if you do that for him he needs to fulfill one of your fantasies, maybe something one of your exes used to do that drove you nuts.Don't get caught up on the fact that ex used to do it. He just wants you to fulfill a fantasy, go with it(who knows you might even like it)because if this is the way you react everytime he tells you about something he likes don't expect him to share them. If you think sex should stay in the bedroom don't expect this guy to stick around because obviously he likes his sex anywhere he can get it.
2006-08-03 21:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by fly on the wall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k so you seem like you WANT to do something more than his ex-fiance did, but your not going to copy her? so are you saying you want to or that you think its wrong?
if you want to.... change it a little.... make it more creative
if not tell him so!!! thats the easiest way outta it and if he gets mad well hes a loser and a jerk face whose only ever wnted to get in your pants.......
2006-08-03 21:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by supersweetqt11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cooking part the lingerie, or the sex. it's something he likes you should try it .
2006-08-03 21:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by powernewfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think hes trying to turn u into sum1 that ur not, and just try ur best to forget bout it and if he brings it up again just tell him that ur not going to do that if thats wat he wants cuz thats just gross
or u could just break up with him all together
2006-08-03 21:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him he is oviously still in luv wit her!
2006-08-03 21:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by baseballplayer57458 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set your boundries. you aren't her, she isn't you. be the best you that you can be. no competition. if he doen't go for it, there maybe other things he's holding out on
2006-08-03 21:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by firechap20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes trying to change you into someone else. be yrself and tell him your not going to be someone else that yr not.
2006-08-03 21:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with himmmm eweewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
2006-08-03 21:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by baby_phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋