well my boyfriend and i dated for a year before sex.
now that it has happened i feel like there are no goals set.
except better sex.
like i love him to death and idk what i would do w.out him but i just don't feel like there is a light at the end. just me and him and being there.
i need excitement.
help please.
thanks in advance.
best idea.
10 points!!!
and a world of thanks.
2006-08-03 13:56:50 · 18 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was amazing sex.
it was just my first time.
so it was a little painful.
and different.
and i do know him on an emotional level.
what do you think i am doing/did for a year???
2006-08-03 14:08:15 · update #1
well, here is a lesson for all of those whose goal is to have sex. only a meaningful, loving, marriage that has gone through the ups and downs of life make "sex" exciting...It is the emotional bonds that strengthen and excite every part of your being, beginning with the mind. and confidence in knowing that the act is not a means to an end, but rather an expression of something
more soulful.
2006-08-03 14:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by cheryl w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment and be open with each other about what you both want.
Watch porn!! The decent stuff might just give you a few ideas.
Use toys. But talk about that one first, just suddenly pulling out a 9' dildo while you're at it will end it very very quickly, without a good result.
Read books. Personal favourite is:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0752857207/026-6263869-6446846?v=glance&n=266239
some friends of mine had a copy and I was shown a couple of the pages and I've been recommending it ever since. I've got a copy, I've just given a copy to one of my friend as part of her wedding present (I know, seems takky, but I got her some really nice bath salts and cremes and other more useful stuff).
Most of all, be honest with each other, you could suggest something he really likes but is too embarrassed to say or vissa versa and you could both love it!
2006-08-03 21:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lizard_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it your looking for? A life or sex?
If it is life then marry and have a family and Go with God.
If it is sex then find a teacher that will teach all aspects of sex and when you’re ready and then go out and find a husband that you can make enjoyment every day of your life with.
I suggest a man that is at least 20-30 years your senior so that Love does not become a factor.
2006-08-03 21:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Michael JENKINS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pursue your dreams with your boyfriend. This may sound odd...but having someone with you when you accomplish something you haven't done...makes it that much more special. I recently went on a diet to lose some weight (the post highschool weight gain!), and successfully lost quite a bit of weight. I wouldn't have done it if I didn't have someone there rooting me on. She wasn't even there to lose weight... just to tone her legs and abs.... but it was like a victory for both of us. I've also been there when someone was finally able to run a marathon after many many attempts.
You have goals in life, and perhaps its time to start sharing those with your boyfriend. Being with a boyfriend isn't just about sex (but the sex should be great!)... try to make your whole life better, and the sex will only be a part of the relationship (rather than the whole thing).
If you want fun sexy things to do in bed....dont ask me. Instead... take your Boyfriend to a local sex shop with one understanding... you pick one thing out for him... and he gets to pick something out for you.... and you both try it! who knows..maybe its sexy lingerie... maybe its some edible body paint... JUST TRY IT DAMN IT! :D
2006-08-03 21:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude, but from the sound of thing the sex really wasn't all that good. It can get better I guess but Usually not. YOu should find someone who rocks your world and makes you want to stay in bed all day!! Just my opinion. Wanna give me a shot?!
2006-08-03 21:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have the physical part of your relationship down. But try exploring each other in a philosophical sense. You may be surprised to find what's there.
2006-08-03 21:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my retarded advice wont help you out here, cuz id basically be telling you to dumb him and go out with a large array of people. the only thing i can say is live it up hun! your on in the peak of the relationship, go out and have a blast, and to solve your no goals set, all relationships lead to marriage and kids, at least thats the idea.
2006-08-03 21:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Seraphiel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are in love, everything seem to be so beautful.even sex. u don't mind losing ur virginity to him, at a young age. but think about it, when you feel u cant see wer you guys are going after sex it means that the enlightment is gone. when you are in love..get to noe each other...you can make out..sex is when you matured enough to handle the relationship and laso the guy
2006-08-03 21:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by chandni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs to take you out more. You feel like you are being used for sex and that he isn't treating you like the lady you are. YOu are not a sex machine.
2006-08-03 21:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Hi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tink u are suffering frm a obession for sex.. tis don killsbut it affects ur daily life a little. hmm for exccitement try costumes like nurses or maids. or naked with onli heels. or sm maybe. a lot la, try them all out
2006-08-03 21:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋