I am so lost when my partner told me that I was just a friend and he has no feelings for me after a few years of being together and after I worked so hard and put so much effort in the relationship.His reasons for not ending it sooner because he was obligated and indebted to me for all that I have done for him all these years.And yet now he wants us to continue being friends. How could I when I have feelings for him and all those things that I have given and done was because of the existence of that love that I have.I told him a normal friend-friend will not have given her all.Though he knew that fact he kept on taking and taking what is being given and held back what is his. Ii is just that he was kind to me all these while until the time when the obligation becomes too much for him to take,then he started to be very nasty with me with the intention that I will hate him.
2006-08-03 13:48:02 · 15 answers · asked by melancholic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Surely you've done enough. Hard as it is, walk away, and close the door. There will be another future for you. Chin up.:-)
2006-08-03 13:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like real trash to me. Here's my take on it. First you'll feel crappy about yourself, then you'll get angry. He was wrong to lead you on this way. I think it is garbage that he stayed because he was "indebted" to you. Bull. He liked the fringe benefits. So I suggest you take all the crap he ever gave you, smash it, put it in a mailing envelope and give him back his crap. (that's how you hurt him, but getting him in his wallet.) Then walk away and never look back. The best revenge is your happiness and success. Focus on a prize and get it, a new car, job, new you, whatever. You'll feel better. Then go out with your friends and treat some guys badly. (You won't find "the one" right after this moron anyway. ) Then after you are through sulking in disguise, find him. He is looking for you. Let him catch you and be happy forever. He's out there. There is someone out there for everybody. My thoughts are with you...
2006-08-03 21:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have commitment trouble and were you moving that way? What is his background like, was their any abuse or addictions in his family?
If he still wants to be friends, ask him why he wants to stay your friend and really listen to the answer. He may genuinly care about you but have an emotional block of somesort he needs to work through. NOTE: this does not mean wait on him go out and have your own life (hard as it sounds).
2006-08-03 22:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by TheyreComingToTakeMeAwayHaHa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a user, I had one of those..
He kept taking because you kept giving. Simple as that. The man played you for as long as he could.. When you either wanted more out of the relationship and/or became hip to his game, that is when he became nasty, Am I right?
He doesn't deserve your friendship... in my opinion or your respect!
2006-08-03 20:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this person sounds like a LOSER!!! I know it hurts right now but it will get better and you should thank him for ending it now instead of continuing to string you along. You sound like you deserve so much better. Go out into the world and spread your wings...try new things and meet new people and oneday he/she will be a distant memory!!!!
2006-08-03 20:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL YA...WE HAD THE SAME SITUATION...weve been almost 2 years and then out of no where he told me he doesnt love me anymore...he was my first boyfriend///so it hurts the hell out of me...but i was like if u dont like me i cannot force myself to u....so i let him go...tho in my mind i reminise the times im with him...until now...and i really loved him...after we broke up...we still hook up from time to time...its a mutual thing for us...but havent heard from him for like 5 months now...but if the guy is not for u...its not for u...just dont give everything up..next time...
2006-08-03 22:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by c0nfus3dmiNd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the guy, and find a new one that will respect and care for your feelings. Too many fishes out there I know you will find one that is good for you.
2006-08-03 20:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people just fall out of love, either both or one of them. It hurst like heck but, time heals the pain and you will find someone who truly deserves you and your caring ways. You can't make him love you.
2006-08-03 20:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...well u need to cry. then u need to stop given yourself away to men without prior commitment...u arent a car to be test driven before marriage...u are a sexy, great woman who needs a courageous man who wants to love u unconditionally...not as a friend....dont call him or be "friends" with him anymore!!
2006-08-03 20:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** him over the way he did. he is so not worth your time. so not worth to put up with him. UGH i hate guys like that
2006-08-03 20:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by goofychick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋