ok say your girlfriend that youve been dateing 4 about 4 months want 2 go 2 one of her xs boyfriends birthday party,after u just got done fiting with the guy.would u let her go?and if u did would u go with her?
2006-08-03 13:46:04 · 17 answers · asked by pinney_pincher 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
She can do whatever she wants to because she is a real person, separate from you, not owned by you.
BUT, if she's your girlfriend then she should respect your feelings and not go.
2006-08-03 13:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you prefer that she not go to go to a party for her ex-boyfriend. Tell her you think it's not appropriate and you wouldn't do it to her. Leave it at that, do not elaborate. Silence speaks volumes.
That's the way you feel and you were honest. Don't argue, just repeat the same two sentences if necessary. Don't be nasty about it, maybe offer to take her out somewhere that night instead.
It's up to her what she does, and it's up to you to decide how you react. This is no time to play games, just say your true feelings briefly, see what she does, and then decide how you will react.
DONTS:
* Don't let her make you commit to a certain reaction beforehand, like "If I go will you be mad, will you break up with me, can I make it up to you?" Just say, I'm a simple guy, I don't know how I'll react if you go, it hasen't happened yet. Right now, I'm just hoping you don't.
* If she doesn't go, don't kiss her butt. Say thank you once and forget it.
* If she gives you crap that she didn't go because of you, tell her it's not your fault if she regrets her decision. You simply told her your feelings and let her decide.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 13:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let her go. I mean I am a girl, but if I were your girlfriend, I woulld not go given the circumstances. But if I were really good friends with the guy, I would want to drop by just to say Happy Birthday. If she really does have to go I would maybe just let her go, I dont know about going with her, because she would probably be mad if you stirred up any trouble. I think it best she does not go that way things dont get really complicated.
2006-08-03 13:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would let her go because you can't control another person's actions. If she really wants to go and you say she can not go she will resent you and it will be bad for your relationship.
Tell her, she can go to the party but you don't like the idea of her going and you wish she would not go. This way if she doesn't go it was her decision and she did it to make you feel good.
2006-08-03 13:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Honest and fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy but, why would she want to go to her ex-boyfriend's party. I think you should tell her if she goes, it is over between you two. If she chooses to go, let her go and you need to move on in life, because your relationship with her was not meant to be.
2006-08-03 13:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you girls always want to remain friends with your "ex's" anyways....it does not make any sense. When i brake up with someone, I never want to see them again because I dont need them, and I dont have a hard time making new friends. I would not let her go to the party.
2006-08-03 13:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NAW, man thats just askin for some shi* to pop off, especially after u just got dun fighting this fool. If u go w/her then u just gone get n another fight & if its his party, trust ME, you'll probably get JUMPED in front yur girl an that ain't cool. So tell her that yur not cool w/it and if she makes a big deal bout it just get even with her and sleep w/ her best friend!!!!!
2006-08-03 13:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by beatitup26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with her, if you want to go yourself, I wouldn't let her go alone, though, i'm trying to help you without you looking like an overprotective boyfriend. It's her life, I would let her go to the party, but if I were you, i'd go with her.
2006-08-03 13:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by windrunner023 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, youre not her father. If you loved her you would tell her you dont want to go in a nice way, but if she wants to go ther'es nuthing you can do without her getting mad at you.
2006-08-03 13:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes id go and see how shes acting... and act all cool (not too much) ....see how she will act ... if she stares... or if she is trying to make him jealous etc..... notice things... but dont get paranoid! and ull realize then ....and if her signs and actions are negative then its her loss not urs!
2006-08-03 13:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋