A few years ago my family moved to our current home to be closer to some certain land so now all my friends are at least a half hour away, I'm not aloud to go outside of my yard alone (because we don't live in the best neighborhood), my parents don't make a lot of money so we don't go out much because there isn't much money to waste, I'm homeschooled, not really involved in any clubs, and basically, to top it off, the house is a mess, most of my family enjoys watching hours upon hours of TV a day, and we don't even eat dinner together (unless it's on the couch).
So my question is: What should I do? I feel like my house is shrinking and it feels hard for my soul to breathe you know?
2006-08-03 13:40:05 · 29 answers · asked by Kaycee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry, forgot that part. lol my dad feels it would be too much responsibility to do school and go to work (so I can't get a job yet), and I only get a very small allowance.. from my grandparents.. who live states away..
2006-08-03 13:49:48 · update #1
well...i wish i had an apple
2006-08-03 13:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by john_taylor_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you interested in gardening at all? There are also things that you can do to help you "escape" so that your soul can feel free. One is Yoga, or something like that. Take up writing, let your imagination take you to the ends of the earth and beyond. See what your town has to offer in the way of programs though, because it is really important to socialize when you are young. There are things you can do like volunteer at the hospital or clinic. I think that you could probably volunteer anywhere without too much trouble for that matter. Trade someone yard work for them teaching you how to play an instrument. Help out some old person that could use some help with things. I want you to know that I appreciate the fact that you are wanting to do things to feel alive and I hope you get some good ideas from your question. good luck
2006-08-03 20:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by lisa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, perhaps you can ask if you can get a job to help out with the families finances.
The job will do 2 things get you out of the house and some breathing room, allow you interact with others.
There are clubs you can joined whether you are homeschooled or not. there's 4-H and girl scouts or boy scouts. Usually they aren't expensive to join, but a great deal of fun and some are given grants so that low income people may join.
You also need to talk to your family, they might feel the same way and will put their heads together to offer a solution.
2006-08-03 20:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving is hard. Making new friends isn't easy either. It sounds like the move has been a disappointment for the whole family. Does your family attend a nearby church? If there are activities for school-age kids there, that is a good place to start making friends. It is also a good place to find out about things to do in your neighborhood, and if someone from church goes to that activity, then you may be able to convince your parents that they are are safe for you to catch a ride with.
About the mess, I have found that it is best if I start doing some cleaning, and then after I''ve been at it for at least 15 minutes to ask for help with one small thing, like moving something heavy. After getting help, I thank whoever helped, but I don't say anything at all about more help, but usually the family feels guilty about me cleaning up their mess, and they chip in. Even if I don't get help, I at least feel better about getting something done about the mess.
2006-08-03 20:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by imzadi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan some family time. Sit down with everyone and explain how you feel. Not everything in life costs money ! You can spend the day at a beach or a park and have "family" time. You could also all sit around the table and play a game ! Find things to do that will help bring your family together and not cost a lot $$$. Take Care
2006-08-03 20:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about reading a book? Reading a book can be a great escape to your own fictional world and can be done in private without the rest of your family around. The last book I read was the Davinci Code. Excellent! Hang in there for now, this will probably be good motivation for you (to encourage you) to excel in school. If you get a good education and find a decent job, you will have no problem moving out of your parents home someday. Good luck. honey. LOL
2006-08-03 20:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would try to keep in touch the best you can with friends by phone or email. Are there any clubs or any organizations you can join? Can you talk to your parents about this? Maybe they are trying the best they can but they are having a hard time financially. Do you have any "personal space" to yourself? Maybe there is a way to get them to go out with you more and/or clean up. Maybe a way to deal with it is to be positive - don't complain, but say "I have an idea, let's go to the park" or "hey, let's clear out some space here."
I had problems growing up too with my folks. I know they loved me, but they had problems and weren't always the best parents. I had some really, really rough times. All I can say is keep trying and just know that even the worst situations are temporary. I'm sure they love you. Maybe some activity together could help them reconnect.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 20:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to make any changes until you are 18 years old and can move out. If I were you, do your best in the mean time with your home schooling, so that when you are older you can get accepted into a good college and move away. Until then, read alot of books. I find that when I'm not happy with my life, it's easy to escape into other worlds though reading good books. Hope this helps.
2006-08-03 20:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by (.Spektra.) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents probably think they are protecting you from the bad neighbourhood.. are you able to invite a girlfriend to stay over even for the day ?if you get permission to have a friend over start by tidying up your own room and gradually start cleaning up the rest .if you have sisters get them to help too. failing this i can only suggest that you talk to mum and dad or an aunt .if you are say 14-15? ask your parents can you go to church or a church run club ? when you are 16 you can go where ever you like and parents cannot do anything about that . you are a human being and you need interaction with other people to thrive socially and mentally
2006-08-03 20:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that I hope you are going off for college soon. Maybe save up some money to go on a trip with your friends or do something away from your home for a while when you can. Sorry to hear about it. I'm sure things will look up soon.
2006-08-03 20:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your family- ask them to put in some more time on cleaning and hanging out together and try to limit the tv. Ask if them if there is any way you can join some clubs- there are plenty of resources for homeschooled kids.
And if you are old enough, start saving money to move out as soon as possible.
2006-08-03 20:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋