Bethany said her b/f has started pestering her for you know what but they've only been going out for a year. Will he respect her in the morning? I said I'd ask.
2006-08-03 13:28:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why start respecting her now?
2006-08-03 13:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Reverand Ray 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm guessing she's never done, you know what, with anyone, thus the rather long wait. If this is true there's a great saying that comes to mind:
"Virginity's like a bubble, one PRICK and it's all over"
If he's pestering her, then he's obviously after it more out of lack of having it than want to share this amazing experience. If he's asking infrequently (if she doesn't want to, it will seem like it's more often than it really is) it could be because he's ready to be totally open with her and needs to understand where she is at the moment.
There's also the possibility that she could be misunderstanding certain actions/remarks that he makes. This happens a lot with me and my girlfriend, I'd do or say something (most of the time sexually related) as a way of just being cheeky to bring a bit of change to our everyday lives. She tends to instantly convert that cheekiness into me being horny and wanting to do it, whereas just a bit of fun and humorous teasing at the most is all I'm trying to produce.
If they truly love each other, he would back down a bit and understand her views. Or she could provide alternative methods, that are within her current boundaries, to try to contain his 'excitement'.
2006-08-03 14:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lizard_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Bethany is an adult ie. over eighteen then a year is definately enough time to start considering a physical relationship. They know each other well and should have good friendship. What's her problem? The poor guy must be going crazy.
If she doesn't like him enough, then she shoudl stop leading him on. It's really cruel of her.
2006-08-04 01:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pestering is NOT a sign of respect to begin with...if this guy really cared about her and respected her to begin with...he would not be pestering her...it is her choice what she does with her body...NOT his...my advice to you is to tell him how you feel...why can't he wait?...that is such a bunch of bull ****...i hate when guys say that crap...putting pressure on girls...i have long passed the girl stage...but i tell you what...if some guy that i was dating started pestering me for sex and i did not feel ready...i would kick him to the curb in a heart beat...because just with the pestering...he is showing disrespect in my book...good luck
2006-08-03 15:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really respects her, he won't try to talk her into anything. He may say he respects her, but the fact that he cannot accept her first answer says he does not. People say what you want to hear, but what they do shows you more about how they feel than anything else. He only cares about his needs, and not hers. His hormones are raging and he is acting like she owes him something. She does not owe him anything, and she should not allow herself to be manipulated or "played" by him. If she does, it will give him permission to never accept what she wants, and always think he can get her to do anything. Tell her not to go there, or to be "easy". If she does, she will be giving up her self control to someone else, and you know that guys talk.....soon, everyone will know she is easy, and try to get her to service their needs. Tell her to drop the loser and that there are many other guys who want to hang out and just enjoy her company, humor, compassion, intelligence, and good spirit. Tell her no matter what they say, that no one respects you if they try to talk you into something.
2006-08-03 13:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he say things like " If you love me you would do it with me?" If so then reply " if you love me you would wate untill im ready " personally i think if your friend is not ready her b/f should respect that and not pressure her into anything. I don't think anyone should be pressured into " doin it " you should wait untill your ready and if her b/f leaves her for not havin "it" with him then he wasn't a very gd b/f in the first place ((no offence)) he might make her feel special but all he wants is sex
2006-08-03 13:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has waited a year than there is high chance of respect as most men would of left if they were only after sex.
2006-08-03 19:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men say they will respect the gal..Thats until they get it on and the next day he's either left or braggin about it to his friends.. Trust me im a man..
2006-08-03 13:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i'm travis shorter and this question just hit me. tell bethany that if he keeps bothering her about it she should ask him about it and if that doesn't help no offence but she should end it. what if he gets desperate and really hurts her.Travis Shorter
2006-08-03 13:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one person has to "pester" another, then it is not the right timing (and/or not the right person).
2006-08-03 13:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by norsktjej1964 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A question applying to men generally. Answer is some will some wont. ur freind will have to rely on her own intuition.
2006-08-03 14:45:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋