i'm 17 today. and i had to work all day. and when i got home, my mom was slamming things and she and my dad got into a fight and my 21 year old brother broke his cell on purpose to get a new one, so even tho it was my bday he and my dad took off to look at phones and stuff. and my mom keeps yellin at me sayin that everyone expects her to do everything. and she has been sayin that she was gonna get me tinkerbell balloons coz i had my heart set on them (don't ask) and awhile after i got home i was jus like were you able to find the balloons and she said that she didn't have the time or the money to get them. and she started yelling at me again, coz i was really disappointed about everything that has happened on my bday.and when she locked herself in her room i went through the house and tore down my birthday banner and cleared everything "birthday-ish"off the table and put them in a drawer,and the two balloons i got from work i threw outside to float away.yes, it sounds like a fit but...
2006-08-03 13:25:26 · 14 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but do i have the right to be upset?? everything went wrong, and it is their fault! all i wanted was a nice birthday where no one got pissed at anyone and i couldn't even have that.
2006-08-03 13:26:29 · update #1
am i being a baby??
i seriosuly can't stop crying because i had such high expectations. for one day of the year, i wanted things to be nice. and they aren't. does that make ma a whiny greedy crybaby?
2006-08-03 13:27:36 · update #2
Look....you are getting to the age where they really don't go out of their way to celebrate every single b-day. From here on out there will be b-days like your 18th, 21st, 30th, etc....Life goes on and you will realize that when you get older, people don't recognize your b-day as much. It sounds like you had a pretty crappy day but tomorrow will be better. Do what I did and make it a party any time you can and celebrate every day! My 40th I spent working, cleaning, etc...but I made it one heck of a weekend I will never forget!!!!! Take control.
2006-08-03 13:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by celestine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to wish you a happy birthday. Yes, any normal person would be upset in that situation. I think your family was inconsiderate of your feelings and thoughtless. Your mother's behavior seems downright immature. But I'm sure she (and the rest of your family) do love you and care about you. It's just that today they were too wrapped up in themselves to realize that they were hurting you. Maybe Mom is entering menopause? Moms can get weird when that starts to happen.
I know it's not quite the same, but go treat yourself to something. Get yourself the balloons, or a manicure, or arrange a lunch date with a good friend. Female friends can be very comforting when you're stressed out. And don't forget, there are plenty more birthdays coming down the pike for you!
2006-08-03 20:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been quite a day indeed, but Happy Birthday, just the same! My dad cleverly claims the entire month of October in celebration of his birthday. There is some wisdom to that, and as Queen for a Day ( since this IS your day) maybe your first official act as Queen should be to make the entire month of August your celebratory time by royal decree! Go ahead and salvage some of the day...
And many happy returns!
2006-08-03 20:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset even cry. You are being ignored, on a special occasion. you have received no love, no consideration, no attention, and no respect.
It sounds like you are trapped in a toxic environment. Is there a grandparent or an aunt that can take tou in and allow you to finish highschool? You can try legal aid to see if that is legally possible, and what kind of financial support the courts would award you to be paid by your parents. They have legal obligations to support their minor children. Leaving home may give enough of a shock to start correcting their relationship. If not leaving that environment may be the best option.
Good luck,
Dan.
2006-08-03 20:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dan S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It sounds like a fit. But it's your birthday! You know what? Everyone. And I do mean everyone, wants to feel special on their birthday. They say they don't, but deep down we all want the world to stop revolving and recognize us on OUR day. I'm sorry yours wasn't what you'd hoped. Maybe you could write a letter to your Mom and explain how hurt you feel? All Moms love their kids. We just suck at it some times. Hang in there. I'd kill or die to be 17 again. You have a lot going for you. Good luck. And Happy Birthday!!!
2006-08-03 20:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by mollydolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that really sucks
but first-- HAPPY BIRTHDAY :)
i'm 17 too. it's a good year.
sooo yeah. maybe they'll find a way to make it up to some other day, if they can see that you're visibly upset?
and plus, there WAS a banner, and stuff that was "birthday-ish", which shows that they somewhat cared
but yeah, you're not being selfish. that wasn't very nice of your family to just go off doing their own things, and not make your birthday special..
i hope the rest of the your day is better... :/
2006-08-03 20:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by orange juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shouldn't be sad on your bday. don't let anybody ruin your bday sweety. If i were you, I would enjoy my bday no matter what. I would call a couple of Friends over and hang out. Then we'll go for dinner and a movie. While at dinner with friends buy your self a cake to share with your friends and just laugh and have fun.. You might think your family don't care, but they do. They are just caught up.
2006-08-03 20:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by yourgirl4eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like you had a rough day, friend...1st off, Birthday!!! I won't say Happy, since it hasn't been. You are at the age, my dear, that you can make your own plans next year with your friends. Some people are insensitive to others feelings, and it sounds like you live in a house full of them. Better luck, and Happy day! :)
2006-08-03 20:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by heatherbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. It was insensitive of your family to ignore your feelings like that. I make a big deal out of my birthdays too (I'm 38), and they never rise up to my expectations...If you were my daughter, you would have your Tinker Bell balloons, some cool presents, a manicure, and a nice dinner out.
2006-08-03 20:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Padme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for what it's worth, Happy Birthday.
2006-08-03 20:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Dagblastit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋