my oldest screams when he doesn't get his way (he's 3 1/2), and now my 1 1/2 yr old has started doing it when he doesn't get his way, it's not just a scream it's a top of the lungs, blood curdling scream. Why do you think he screams like that, and is there anything that I can do to get him to stop besides give him what he wants because that will only incourage him to keep screaming when he wants something until he gets it??
2006-08-03 13:22:45 · 15 answers · asked by tina_leigh 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
DO NOT GIVE IN!!! This is why they scream like that...
Let them scream, They'll get tired of it. Put them in their beds or make them sit somewhere, let them know you are the parent.
2006-08-03 13:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by cknksmom2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, don't give in to your child! It's a temper tantrum! It just depends on the rules of your house on how you want to deal with it. Some parents opt to ingore a temper tantrum, in hopes that it will stop. In some instances, it does once the child realizes he/she isn't getting their way by having a fit. In other households (mine included), the child would get a good ol' fashioned spanking for acting like that (at least at 3 1/2)...nothing major...there is a difference between spanking and abuse. At 1 1/2..a small swat to the back of the leg (or even on the diaper) as soon as he/she starts to scream is usually enough to let them know not to do it. Good luck.
2006-08-05 19:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by sbhb090896 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my two oldest. I just started getting down to their level, looking them in the eye, and telling them calmly that they weren't going to get what they want. Then I would just simply ignore whichever one it was that was screaming. It wasn't always fun, and my daughter was too young to understand anyway, but once the older one started figuring it out, she did too.
Another thing I tried was doing that, and then offering them some kind of choice - between playng with one of two toys, or choose between two different snacks, something like that (not including what it was they were screaming for in the first place).
2006-08-03 13:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by bratty001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer all that unusual if he's cuddling and verbalizing whilst he's no longer offended. little toddlers who're very limited of their command of language have distinctive project coping with their thoughts and translating what they're feeling into language. you could help him with this with the aid of giving him words to apply whilst he's expressing his anger. Say some thing like" i comprehend you're feeling offended or pissed off as a results of fact mommy says it fairly is time for mattress, i visit carry you till you could cool down" it fairly is totally ok handy him a fave crammed toy or blanket at those cases so he learns to self convenience. Pacifiers must be thrown out with the aid of the time a new child is 9-10 months old.. whilst he quiets down, circulate approximately doing what had to be saved faraway from extra remark. like countless of those levels , this too shall pass. you could point out it to the pediatrician at his next circulate to, yet once you supply your new child the words and somewhat time maximum will outgrow that blood curdling scream as a results of fact it does not paintings to steer sparkling of what is going to ensue besides.
2016-09-28 21:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try ignoring him. Just walk away. If that doesn't work, send him to his room and tell him he can come out when he promises not to scream anymore. Tell him he is setting a bad example for his sibling. Be sure not to give in to those screams. After awhile, perhaps he will see it doesn't work and stop. Be sure to praise good behavior. Good luck and I'm glad my kids are grown.
2006-08-03 13:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop what you are doing and look him in theyre eye's close and tell then to stop yelling at you and be firm repeat this as many times as it takes. my son when he was little and now that he is grown if he gets mad and gets loud I can walk up to him and look him in the eye and say don't talk like that he will stop and start again I just wish his wife could learn this instead of yelling you can yell all day a someone that is upset and get no where be firm and consistant don't react be cool and calm and make the law every time
2006-08-03 13:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would withold whatever it is that he wants until he stops screaming. I know it's terrible to hear your child screaming (not to mention annoying) but the phase should pass quickly if you fail to give in. Nip this in the bud, as it will only develop into more problems later! Good luck!
2006-08-03 13:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they are gonna scream like that give 'em a real reason to scream like that beat them and tell them if they scream like that again they will get another they also need to be spanked when they don't respond properly to being told no
2006-08-03 13:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Monte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does it because he can lol.
Tell him to stop in a calm voice. He won't. Tell him, still in a calm voice that it is too loud and it upsets you when he does that. Then just look at him and wait. Eventually he'll stop, then just continue on with whatever you were doing.
The fact is, kids don't know what is acceptable and what is not. You have to tell them, in very plain english. "Do not pick your nose", "Do not hit your brother", etc.
2006-08-03 13:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to just ignore it. Our son did it for a while, and I just put him somewhere safe and didn't pay attention to him until he calmed down. Now the only time he does it is if he gets stuck somewhere (it's amazing where he can get those limbs, even in "child safe" toys).
2006-08-03 13:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by criticalcatalyst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋