should i date someone else while i wait to be with my boyfriend?

Question

i'm going to move away for a year and my current boyfriend does not promise to wait for me but says that when i get back he wants to try again. assuming he's just trying to be honest and not a jackass- should i do the same even if i'm in love with him? is dating just to have fun, while knowing that i'm going to dump them soon ok, or just mean?

Answer 1

Show me your everything.

Answer 2

You shouldn't have to just die or become a nun necause he is away. No, it is not mean to enjoy the company of other guys, so long as you let them know what your intentions are (or are not) up front.
See how he feels about it. If you maintain his place as #1, is he all right with you seeing other guys? You don't have to trick anybody into a relationship just for the company. You can date (or have sex) with the understanding that it is what it is, and neither one of you will try to change that.
If he is honest, he will probably tell you that it bothers him a bit, but if he loves you, then he will not want you to remain celibate and end up resenting him for it.
Just talk to each other a lot, over the phone/email. Keep each other posted with your true feelings. Tell each other how this or that person does it for you, but not as good as him.
It is possible to enjoy the "Mr. Right Now's" while maintaining a place in your heart and your life for "Mr. Right" while you are apart. If you two truly love each other, you will cross paths and pick up where you left off. And if you do, you will feel that much more special to each other, having been around, seen what's out there, and still picking each other above all else.
Good luck and take care!

Answer 3

Dating should totally be about fun. . . . . and your guy isn't making you any promises (when you get back if he hasn't found someone else then he'll give it another try) this sounds a little assumptive on his part. Your guy is keeping his options open and so should you, otherwise you may find yourself banking on a half baked promise but instead you're kicked to the curb. Go date and have fun. Tell future prospects that your not looking for long term but your interested in meeting new people and making new friends.

Answer 4

Your "boyfriend" isn't going to be faithful to you while you're gone, and you're concerned about seeing other people?

I wouldn't expect you to not see other people if you two aren't going to be near each other for a year, and neither does he. Maybe you'll realize that he isn't "Mr. Right" after all. Go out and date and have fun and just be free to be yourself. Don't worry about the guy back "home". If it's meant to be, he really will be waiting when you get back, but your luck, if you'd not date while you were away, would be that he would find someone else and you would come back to nothing.

Good luck.

Answer 5

assuming your boyfriend is serious about seeing other people and you think that he really would sleep around given a Chance, do you really want to be with A guy who would do that?
surely if he loves you he would be willing to wait for you to get back to him. I know i would.
however if you do want to sleep around or just have fun days out with other guys, as long as you are honest with them that it is only sex or whatever and is only going to be a short term thing. you would be fine.
but the choice is yours. I don't think your boyfriend loves you at all if he is threatening to sleep around. although all credit too him for being honest and not promising to stay faithful.
however if you promise to call him every day/night if you have a video mobile then you could talk dirty to each other and see each other get off to the sex talk.
if you are that way inclined.
like i said the choice is yours.

Answer 6

ok..well I say that you should just dump him...once you move...he's all in the past..me and my ex broke up...cuz there was some reason why and he told me that some day maybe me and him will be back together...never gonna happen...but we did like eachother alot...he did look a mix between benji madden and tom delonge. He was hot...and we both liked each other alot in the little time we were together we were together for 2 weeks and liked each other alot...but now i know me and him don't belong..he has a best chick friend and i am sure they are together and will not break up...so forget about him and move on once you move...love is waiting for you someplace out there....sure you two will love each other and continue too...but you will find your guy.

Answer 7

If he isn't going to wait then he doesn't love you, Alot can happen in a year. He could fall in love with someone while your gone and where does that leave you when you come home? I would just break it off. How are you going to feel knowing he's having sex with someone else and not you? You need to find someone that loves you enough to wait for you.

Answer 8

If you were in your 30's and mature and able to handle long distant relationships. Sure wait on him. But, you sound like you are only 12 - 13 years old. Talk to lots of guys. Men come. Men go. Family and friends are forever.

Answer 9

Dating is fun but I see it as letting me know who I am and what I really want. You are not making commitments to anybody anyway so I don't think its a mean thing to do. go ahead and date have fun.

Answer 10

You need to worry about you. Go on and date and have fun, you don't want to look back and have regrets. When you get back, then you can decide on whether to give hm another shot or not. Good luck to ya.

Answer 11

Love honestly is going one way in this. If he actually loves you, he would wait with no problem. There is a such thing as visits. Let that go and get yourself another man.