our relationship is going. I asked him point blank if he was seeing other people and he said no, then I asked him if some girl asked him out or whatever would he go out with her and he said no. I also let him know that I wasn't seeing anyone and that I also had no interest in seeing anyone other than him. My question is: did I handle that situation the right way? I just want everything out in the open. I don't want to just assume that I am the only person that he is dating. Yet, I want to be. He said that I am. He hasn't given me any reason to believe otherwise. I just don't want him to feel as if there is pressure to be with me if he is not ready to be in a monogamous relationship. I am ready for a relationship with him and I told him that when I let him know how I feel....It's like I want to be with him but, I don't want him to feel as if he is trapped. I know that some girls have a tendency to make a guy feel that way and I was just wondering if I handled this right.
2006-08-03 12:55:05 · 14 answers · asked by ♥BlackGirlLost♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you didn't have an accusatory tone of voice while asking these questions I think you handled it just fine. At least now he knows exactly what you want so now it's his responsibility to tell you if he wants something different. You've been upfront and honest about your feelings.
2006-08-03 13:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you handled it good. i however believe that you feel a bit insecure in starting a relationship. You should not have to worry about making him feel pressured or trapped. Just be yourself and if he does he will let you know. worrying about if you are doing things wrong or right is as bad for the relationship as if you did not trust that person and thought he/she was cheating. And it is noticable so then you will do things wrong by accident because it is always on your mind not to. I suggest you relax alot. If it trust that you are worried about then you need to look outside the square and tell him to be complely honest with you. if it is not trust then it is your own insecurities. I think it is wonderful for you to be able to communicate now while the relationship is still young. it means that you will have a perfect communication in the future to come. relax and keep have this great communication thing going on and there shouldnt be a problem.
2006-08-03 20:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by ness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are over thinking this thing out.
All you did, was ask a couple of questions, that he answered truthfully.
That's it, all done and over with. You both know where you stand.
If he felt pressure, he would have said so, and it seems he didn't.
Don't try to think what he must be thinking, that's a dead end.
If he feels that way, he'll let you know about it.
So relax and get on with your relationship, and don't worry.
Worry can put you into the grave, faster than most anything.
2006-08-03 20:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worring he loves you if you two are still together. Relationships have stressful times and great times. Always work at the relationship and also give a little breathing room for the both of you. To much togetherness can cause serious relationship drama.
2006-08-03 20:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by youngmom182002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled this situation well. It's important to be honest and up-front. It never is a good idea to just assume that someone feels a certain way when you haven't actually discussed it with them. What you did was smart and straightforward. He should appreciate this. :)
2006-08-03 19:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by louisvuittonprincess1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You handle the situation correctly. You know men are not going to tell you the truth. He made be seeing someone else besides. Men like and love to play the field and games with women. He could be having sex with other females. I would drop him and move on girlfriend.
2006-08-03 19:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds okay that you did that. I mean - think about this....if you feel that way and he doesn't, you want to know that right? I also think if he feels that way about you....then he probably appreciated the honesty. I would hope so anyway. But always remember not to be too pushy as you can lose a person that way (yes, even when married). Everyone needs their space - including you. But I think you did the right thing.
2006-08-03 20:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it perfectly. Be honest and ask honest questions of each other. It'll all work out great! Good communication is key, so you're off to a great start!
2006-08-03 19:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it perfectly! You told him how you felt and asked him how he felt. You were honest. You didn't pressure him.
Next move is up to him. Good luck.
2006-08-03 19:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see the situation.
look, no matter what a guy tells you, he does what he wants
remember that and it will save you from hurt later
2006-08-03 19:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋