Am i a compulsive liar?

Question

I am really worried i can't seem to stop lying. I lie about anything e.g i told my friends i was pregnant to get attention and i also make up story's so they think WOW ! I have lied to make friends and then lie more to keep them as friends! I even lie to my family about boyfriends and stuff like that ! I lie and try to make myself look good but the thing is the lie's come from nowhere i don't realise i am saying them untill i have actually said them and im really worried as i am only 14 i know it sounds silly but i cannot stop lying and its getting me down !

Answer 1

I had a colleague like you, she couldn't tell the truth to save her life. Fortunately she was made redundant recently.
She told the most awful lies.......

Breast cancer
Mum had breast cancer
Daughters were abducted by ex husband
Found a snake in the boiler room
Electrocuted and thrown across the kitchen
£240,000 in the bank
Bought a villa in Turkey
Has an apartment in Ibiza

Etc etc, the list goes on.

if i were you i'd stop it now else you'll be the brunt of everyone's jokes as she was.

Answer 2

Its not lying that is the problem, honey. Most people will come to see through you and that will cause you other social problems. The root of your present problem is low self-esteem, or lack of confidence in yourself in other words. Address that issue and trust me the lies will disappear.
Personally I never tell a lie. This is not because I am saintly, better than you or more assured of going to heaven etc.
Its because I have so much confidence in my self that I always think bollocks to anyone who doesn't like me or what I say.
Honest!!
You never need to impress people with money, lies or glory.
Most people are more impressed by sincerity, actually.
What you have done is to take a HUGE step in the right direction by admitting to yourself what the problem is. You have been honest/sincere with yourself in other words.
The next step is to work out why you feel inadequate. Whatever you think the answer is I wouldn't mind betting that your feelings are groundless. If you are fat, flat-chested, short etc then confide in someone you consider a real friend. You will be amazed at how they open up to you and tell you their problems as well. Take things from there.
Hope this helps.
Not that I give a **** whether it does or not, ha ha ha
(Only joking, I hope it does really). xxxx
Thanks for your message, you dont have an email listed so I can't reply!!

Answer 3

You aren't the only one...I have a sister-in-law just like you. I do agree it is for attention and the "Wow" factor. The sad part is that you obviously don't believe in yourself, or think well enough of yourself to realize that people want to know YOU...and that they are interested in the REAL things you do. If we want fantasy, we can rent a movie. Try to start liking yourself enough and give other people a chance to get to know the real you. You're 14 and you've got a whole lifetime ahead of you to make wonderful things happen. And the person you hurt the most by lying is yourself...most people aren't as gullible as you may believe. And if someone does believe you and then finds out they've been lied to...then you've really lost something there. The world is full of liars....trying being different...be honest...that is special. ****and if you can't get a handle on it yourself, then there is no shame in seeking the advise of a professional. Good luck.

Answer 4

You sound like a teenager who just wants attention and are going through a typical stage of life. But this not too say that lying is right and it is something your going to have to control. First thing you will have to do, is realize that you do not need to lie to your others to make friends. Be your self and don't worry about not being popular - people will like you better if your just your self and not pretending to be something your not. Lying will only get you into trouble and lose you friends.
Should you find your self unable to control your lying, then I would suggest you see someone professional about your problem.

Answer 5

By the time you write this. you are not a compulsive liar but a person whom is rather lack of confidence. this lack of confidence could be due to the fact that you may want attention or that you want social acceptance.

Now that is the wrong way of doing things. because by the time you reaches the age of maturity, if this gets into the habits, you will find that you no longer have long term friends and colleagues would find you as a difficult person to get along

I always encourages Teens to read 7 Effective Habits of Teens. You should be able to find yourself there OK Girl

Be good. any more question, you may email me at [e-mail]

Yes I am from Singapore.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are in a bit of a vicious circle here. You lie to feel good about yourself. Once you have told the lie you feel bad about yourself and you lie again! Telling lies is never good and from what you say you are only hurting yourself. Try and take a few breaths before you say anything and think about it first.

Answer 7

i was same had no mates i had to lie to them to get them very good eh?? all i can say now is if you have to lie to get mates they are not mates in the 1st place its hard growing up but really need to stop laying 1 day you forget what you said and become unstuck truth is its easier to lie then be the real you but people would rather have the real you then a liar think before you speak and try to stop laying take 1 day at a time and good luck

Answer 8

i wonder why you feel you have to lie do you feel your Friends have more of an interesting life than you? that if you lie thay will like you more it sounds to me that you suffer from low self esteem you may feel your life is boring compared to that of people around you and you are looking for acceptance a place of belonging have you brothers and sisters older or younger that you feel get more attention than you?its the people around you that i feel you need to look at . get more involved in things clubs school activities any thing you can the more the better then you wont need to lie your life will be full of exciting things . and you will have loads of stories to tell but they will be true and you will have no fear of being found out. good luck

Answer 9

Lying is wrong, but if one does it, it may be just to save one from being humiliated. Sometimes the truth will save one's integrity. Lying continuously as you have done is cheating yourself, not anybody else. You must be confident and daring to speak the truth, come what may. Many people like straight and truthful talk. When the truth is out that you are lying you are going to loose everything that you have been trying to build. Give up now before it destroys you.

Answer 10

You definately have a problem and need some kind of counceling. This is very dangerous because it can cause you to loose a lot of friends. Someday someone might really care about you because of a lie you told. When they find out it could be over.