she is the one who always ask for sex,she always says she is safe. as if she planned all of this so that she will be pregnant and I will be force to marry her because I am a responsible person. she wanted to have a comfortable life as she thought I can help her fnancially? I am not happy lately even when I see her, life became different now because of my mistake. what must I do and what must I feel?
2006-08-03 12:22:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can't marry out of guilt... It will turn into constant irritation.. Be a responsible father.. and do the best out of this situation... Mariage is the worst thing you could do if you don't like/ neither love the girl.
2006-08-03 14:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very important lesson learned in life. Some women are like that, if they think that they're going to lose you and don't want you to leave they think that they can keep you by doing something like that. What they don't understand is that only makes us want to leave even more. Just bc you get her pregnant doesn't mean that you have to marry her you can still be responsible as the child's father by that doesn't require that you marry her.
What were you doing have sex w/ her if you don't even like her.
If you want to be responsible, next time be responsible for your self and wear protection. Now you might be a father, if your not sure if the baby is your because the girl gets around, make sure that you get a paternity test !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-03 12:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by P K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be forced to marry her? Do yourself a favor and rethink this idea. I know u might be responsible and all but u will nto be happy marrying someone you dont like, even if she is pregnant. You can always be there for the child even if you dont marry his/her mother. Plus are u sure it's yours maybe you werent the only person she was sleeping with. I really feel for you, it sucks how some people have to learn from their mistakes. Finanically, if you can't help her, try your best to be there for the child. A suggest to get a paternity test when the child is born
2006-08-03 12:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am single & I have a son AND I still feel that Im a responsible parent even though I am not married and was 18 when my son was born.
My partner & I tried to make it work but when my son was 3 we ended up going our separate ways... we are still good friends though (which i know is a pretty rare thing)
If you dont think this girl will make you happy as a partner in life then DO NOT marry her. You will probably end up resenting her and the child for the rest of your life. It may not be on the surface but deep down inside of you and will probably make you go crazy all of a sudden one day.
You can still be a responsible parent, adult & man without committing your life to someone you do not love.
Last of all, it is possible for you to do the right thing & be there for her as a friend and for the child as a dad without living with or marrying the mother.
If you need any more advice, or someone to talk to you can contact me miss2sexc@yahoo.com.au
goodluck
2006-08-03 12:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't like the girl, but you had sex with her. Hmmmm, that doesn't say a whole lot for you, does it?
To paraphrase; you did the crime, now you have to do the time. Even if you don't marry her, you have a responsibility to the child that you helped create. That responsibility doesn't stop at financial obligations, either. And it has very little to do with any motivations she might have had in the process.
Next time, think with the head that's on top of your shoulders, and not the other one.
2006-08-03 12:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by arani_csa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her... you really don't want to raise a kid in a very unhealthy environment like that. Just be there for the kid... pay child support if she wants you to... There is a good chance that she did get pregnant on purpose. So.. if you marry her, you are only falling right into her trap. It's your life. Do you really want to be miserable for the rest of your life with this girl? Trust me, you can still raise the kid without being married to her. Don't let her play games with you. You're not her puppet. Good luck
2006-08-03 12:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how things are where you come from, but where I live, it's becoming a common occurrence... Guys getting girls pregnant. You don't necessarily have to marry her, I mean, support her and your child yes, but not marry her. If later on you decide you've come to want to marry her, then go ahead. But until it's something you want to do, it wouldn't be right to inflict that on you or her or your child. Hope things work out. Have an awesome day :)
2006-08-03 12:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Emilie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is get a paternity test when the baby is born. If the baby is yours just take care of it but you don't have to spend the rest of you life with this girl especially if you don't have those types of feelings for her. Let her know how you feel right now before she thinks she has a future with you.
2006-08-03 12:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by nish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, never trust someone who claims to be "safe". you say that you're responsible, but if that is the case why didn't you slap a condom on your little man? I'm not trying to criticize or judge, sorry if it comes off that way.
if you don't want to commit to this woman, make sure you pay her support for this child, but first make sure it is yours before you sign an acknowledgment of paternity at the hospital. I work in a law office and we have encountered this way too many times.
2006-08-03 12:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by jessyl135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to marry her just take care of your child and learn for your mistakes. Now you know just because a girl says she is safe you still strap up. Put on a condom. NEway just make sure you take care of your child and stay in his or her life.
2006-08-03 12:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by thugangel19842002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋