I really was heart broken when he left cause I wouldn't have sex and the other girl would. Now he broke up with her and wants me back. I care about him but I don't know whether to trust him again. He says he wants to go out but no sex unless I am ready. I told him it's not about sex and he says he realizes that now and misses and loves me.
2006-08-03 11:55:54 · 18 answers · asked by applecheeks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too little too late!
2006-08-03 11:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dani California 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dumped you to have sex basically. He is very wrong for doing this because if he really cared for you, then he would have waited until you were ready. He's coming back because either he actually realizes that he messed up but to be honest that was too big of a mess up to take him back or because he's lying to you. Number one thing is, if a guy dumps you for another girl and comes back, he's not worth taking back. If a guy dumps you to have sex, he's not worth taking back. I know you probably care for him deeply but I'm assuming you are young and you have plenty of time to find Mr. Right. And trust me, he's out there waiting for you just like you are waiting for him so don't settle for any less.
2006-08-03 12:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by dluke68502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend knows you still have feelings for him and is manipulating you. If you should decide to let him back in, then you will not be able to trust him, he will continue to be selfish and controlling. Is this what you want?
If he broke up with you because you wouldn't have sex in the first place, then he wasn't much of a boyfriend.
I hope you're as smart as you are pretty. Tell him, 'no way'. You'll be doing good.
2006-08-03 12:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience (although mine didn't break up with me, he was still with me and cheated), I'd say do what your heart tells you to. That's the best answer. See, my man wanted me back and I took him back. We are now engaged almost a year later (wedding is in two months) and couldn't be happier. AND he has stayed faithful. Some guys really do just mess up and realize that the did and want to fix it with the one they know they're supposed to be with. Some guys are just a**holes, but I don't know your guy, so I can't tell you either way. My advice is to do what your heart tells you to. If you want to take him back, do. But tread carefully. Don't just jump full force back into the relationship. Also, let him know up front that he will have to earn your trust back. If he's willing to do that, maybe he is serious.
2006-08-03 12:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by rockerbarbie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things that lead to a breakup. Sex can only have been one of them. If you don't give him behavior related consequences (by staying apart forever) he won't learn and may hurt someone else the same way later.
Sex is really on his Must Have list and No Sex is on yours, despite what he said. If other things had worked out with the other girl, he would have stayed away.
Make sure you are building up the other areas of your life. Have fun alone (run, write letters, read, dance, cook). Have fun with friends. Spend time with your family. Even when you're dating, you need to keep these things going so that your happiness isn't based on externally fulfilling a need, but by being a happy person who is happy alone but loves to share her happy life with someone else.
2006-08-03 12:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-06 21:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on how much you him, and if you really love him alot are you willing to forgive him. When you do forgive doesn't mean was wrong what he did because was, it means you try not ever mention again and that's hard, like I said if you really want a life with guy. what he said to you may be right of his heart he may just really messed up, and realizes you are the woman for him.. :) the person that cheats hurts like hell whey they come to there senses and realize the pain they caused.
2006-08-03 12:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kat (with wisdom under her hat) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl dont take him back...there was a reason why you two didnt work and that reason is still there. you need a man who will respect you from day one, not after he has his fling on the corner.
but if you really want a relationship with him then start slow, get to know him again as a friend, then see if hes wort that second chance.
i hope this helps :)
2006-08-04 09:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take him back. seriously. im a guy. we all want to shag. love is just a way to get into your pants. he hasn't even seen in you in a while and has dated another girl. he can get over you easily, you cannot do the same... if you really want him.. keep up the resistance and MAKE HIM earn the right to be with you again. YOU must set the terms of the relationship.. you cannot let him take control ...
2006-08-03 12:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by James T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back with him. if he dumped you once for another girl, what makes you think he wont do it again?.. Im sure your with the sounds of your situation, that your young. You have so many more guys to go threw, and the one that counts most, who is hopefully " the one " you choose to first have sex with, he wont break your heart, and wont make you cry. theres better out there.
2006-08-03 12:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did it once, he'll do it again. You have a right to wait as long as you want to have sex, no one should make you feel that you have to, in order to keep them as your boyfriend. Most men think with their private parts & not their brains.
2006-08-03 12:04:31 · answer #11 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋