Need advice about ring bearer?

Question

Our 20 month old son(who loves the outdoors) is our ring bearer, to our outdoor ceremony, any ideas to keep him down the aisle and stay put during the ceremony so he doesn't run around on the grass? our mothers will be in front, is it ok for him to sit on one of their laps?

For "eyeslikeholes"- the reason i said 20 months instead of saying he's 2... is because he isent 2!! he is 20 months. thanks for the advice, get a life!
Anyways, I am thinking of having the flower girl (10 years old) to walk him down the aisle, and then maybe they can go play in the grass, or sit together.??

Answer 1

He's your son, it's your wedding, so he can sit wherever he wants... why let some silly old tradition get in the way of your (and his!) enjoyment of your very special day.

He is far too young to understand what is happening, so it would be somewhat unreasonable to expect him to stay still and be quiet through the whole thing... why not ask a friend to sit at the back or to the side with him, and do some drawing, or bring a few toys to keep him entertained.

Answer 2

ok....I have a similar situation except it is my nieces and nephews (young children) What I'm doing is have my ring bearer (3 yrs old) walk down the isle and then sit with grandma and grandpa in the front......my rule was if they aren't able to stand without making a scene then they will sit in the front row. Then after the ceremony they will walk back down the isle. But everyone understands that little ones will be little ones and as long as you go into it knowing that you won't let it stress you out then it will go great.... Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

I would have him walk down the aisle with the flower girl. Take some little toys. (like some cars or something that he likes playing with) So when he's done he can sit down and play with them. Also take some little snacks. Something that's not going to make a mess. That way he can still get his picture taken.

Congrats!

Answer 4

why don't you have him walk you down the aisle?? That would be way too cute. Do you have a cousin that could take him for you. Only because your Moms want to watch the ceremony, not take care of your son. Have the "babysitter" have a pocket full of his favorite snack to keep him busy. Congrats and Good luck

Answer 5

I'd say have him color or play with legos on a towel make sure you don't give him the rings or the pillow to the last minute since he is 20 months and it nmight get dirty or lost.I say that having the kid sit in his grandmothers lap makes him look uncivillized like someone has to hold him to make sure he doesn't go crazy.I saw have him stand up with you or sit in his own chair.

Answer 6

This is a lovely idea to include him in the ceremony. maybe he could walk in with one of the bridesmaids- then do the rings and sit down with a grandparent.

or he could go in with the groomsmen-- but that is a long wait..... and he might get anxious.

All the best to you and you family

Answer 7

When using a 20 month old boy it is customary to have someone escort the child. The escort may either trail behind or hold hands, whichever seems right at the moment. And afterwards, yes, do have him sit with your mothers.

Answer 8

It is absolutely appropriate for him to sit with your mom and as cute as it sounds for him to play in the grass with the 10-year old it may end up distracting people.

Answer 9

Absolutely, My son is in our wedding and he is about the same age his aunt will help him down the aisle and sit with him when he is done doing his job.

Answer 10

At what point are you going to quit referring to your children in terms of months? Why not say he's two? And yeah, put him on grandmas lap and give him a sucker and he'll be quiet the whole time.