i hate my sister...?

Question

i hate my sister.
why dosent she always make me look like the evil one make me look stupid in front of everyone.?!

why does she have to be so stuck up and always be a tatale tail?

and why does she have to brag about every thing?
why does she have to reck my stuff so hers could look better?!
why does she put her trash in my room?!
why does she always have to tell dad in private that im stupid and need more studing?
why does dad never listen to me but only my sister!?

im i that stupid?
im i really loser like my sister said?
why do i get hanged by everything?
why does she always make me feel down?
why does she have to be so mean to my friends and talk **** behind my back?
why do i have to be the stupidest and still be he oldest?
why doesnt my family listen to me?!
im i that mean?!
what did i do wrong?!
what should i do?!
why are her friends all ways telling me im stupid and i have idea who they are?!
how do i make her stop doing that?!
why?
why wont dad listen ?

why wont dad let me explain anything?!
why does my sister have to take everything away?!
i dont want to be the oldest!!!!

i cant get her too listen to me all she can say is her self...and its my turn to do that.

Answer 1

your sisters a beatch

Answer 2

I'm sorry to say this, but your sister is a biaaaaaaaatch! Well if I was you I would of punched her in the face a long time ago, but that's not the way to role. I suggest you stay away from her. Lock yourself in your room or go some were quiet. Don't let her get away with things. You have to stand up to your self and she has to respect her elders since you are older. FYI the reason they smother your sister is because she is the youngest otherwise the baby. Anyways like I said stand up for your self and take charge. When ever your sister is not around talk to your dad and tell him how you feel. He will understand because he loves you both and cares about you two. Plus I know you love your sister. Your only saying that you hate her because she is getting annoying, but trust me you don't notice what you have until it's gone. So if I were you I would stop saying that I hate her. Other then that just ignore her for right now. You'll notice that she is going to get curious in why you are acting that way with her. If none of this works then try to spend time with your sister and you will find out how much she really loves you and why she acts the way she does with you. Trust me a bit quality time with your sister will lead you to understand allot about her and at the same time she will learn about you and you will notice the annoying part fade away. Well good luck and I wish you the best =-)
Ciao~
P.S: Sisters should be best friends not enemies!

Answer 3

Well there is nothing you can do about being the oldest, but there is somethings you can do about the other things.

First of all you need to talk to your Dad, not when you are angry, but when you are calm, this way you can tell him what is going on without screaming or whining.

Make a list of things that you want to stop and tell him how these things make you feel. If this doesn't work then you can:

Put a lock on your door so your sister can not wreck your stuff, if you cant do that when she comes in your room uninvited and wrecks your stuff, Don't get mad and yell at her, just go in her room and wreck hers. After her stuff starts getting broken she will probably stop breaking yours.

Don't pay any attention when she tells you that you are stupid or any of the other mean stuff that she says. You know its not true and the only reason that she says stuff like that is because she knows that she is getting to you. If you don't give her that satisfaction, she will stop.

Good luck, I know all of this stuff is hard to do but it will work in the long run.

Answer 4

Hate is really a strong word especially about a relative, that you know, and that down deep inside you love and would never let anything happen to !! Well am I right!! Well I know you think I'm wrong but hear me out!!! Shes probably just getting you in trouble because she envys you!! Sometimes when people are mean to one another it's there way of showing how much they really do care about each other!! All brothers and sisters fight but one day you will need each other!! Especially the younger one!! Now your dad and mom or whoever you live with don't listen because they know your the older more mature rolemodel and when your sisters acting this way you need to think of a mature way to handle it!! But I can't tell you I live in a house with brothers girls tend to be more sensitive!!!!!!!!!! I can't tell you what to do because I'm not your guardian but all I'm saying is she really does love you no matter how mean she is to you!!!

Answer 5

Your sister has low self esteem. It's sad but you'll be better off in the end. What she is bestowing upon you is cruel and your dad probably thinks its just sibling rivalry and doesn't understand the extent of your frustration. I suggest that you write all your feelings down in a letter and give a copy to your sister and a copy to your dad. It is very important when writing letters like this that you not write it during an angry moment. If you do it's better to hang on to it for a day and edit it before giving it to them. You want all your points to be made but you also want to come off respectful and not angry. Why? Because they will listen to your feelings and take them to heart rather than pick out something that you said in a hateful way to focus on. Give them nothing to criticize you about. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 6

WOW! thts harsh but people do tht so they can bring theyre confidence up and others down ur sister loves u deep down trust me the same thing happens with my brother hell do stuff and tell my stepdad and my dad will listen to my brother and not me and im the oldest people think different listen u rent stupid ur sister has done so many things that u think tht move on.... Laugh about it....Forget it.....Because like 20 years from now u will regret this but u guys will be Best Friends i PROMISE! but anyways chill out and live life and party because hunny we dont live 4ever so make life the best bc u kno it is<3 hope it works! ♥ Brit ♥

Answer 7

You won't be living there forever. Just take a breath and realize that you will be grown someday and then you can make a choice on if those people are in your life. Never believe the mean things people say about you, no matter how many times they say it. Try to not let her get to you.

By being the oldest you will get to leave there first, be happy about that.

Answer 8

Do you have a good relationship with your father? If yes then go and tell him how you feel and what is going on.
Also I would tell your sister how her actions are effecting you. Siblings can be annoying, and do very hurtful things, hopefully you both will grow up and become closer.
If the above suggestions offer you no help then maybe you need to find a third un biased part to talk to like a counselor.

Answer 9

Ah the plot of the older sister. Look I'm the youngest of 3d my older sister used to think the same of me at one point in time. I'm sure of it. But the thing is - I admire my sister. She is one of the ppl I look up to. I want to be just like my sister, she's loved and desired, and she's smart, and ppl like that. There seems to be a sty that if you'rethe youngest then you have to do things to get attention. Your sister hasn't learned the lesson - Bad attention is not better than no attention at all. She's younger, she looks up to you. She loves you. Your father doesn't listen for one reason. You're older and you should know better. And cuz your younger sister looks up to you - you should be showing her right from wrong. I know I know it sucks. But you're helping to mold a young woman. There may come a time when your sister may come to U and apologize ( I did) but untill then, just be patient. You may have to be a little hidden and secretive. But don't turn your back on your sister. There is love there.

Answer 10

Girl, we can't answer those questions for you love. You need to start writing in a journal, maybe talk to a teacher or other relative about your dad.
See if they can get him to spend some time w/you to talk about stuff that is going on with you. Sounds like you are having a real hard time right now, but you can make it through...just try talking to someone

Answer 11

ok..this story sounds a little familiar..except i'm the younger one and my older sister was considered the "mean" one. the thing is, i never really did much to get her in trouble...but when she tried to get me in trouble my mom would still blame her. i felt vindicated, but at the same time i felt that the more it happened, the more she hated me. seems like u are in somewhat of a similar position, where u feel no matter what you do, ur parents always "take the younger kids' side". in my case, however, my sister resented me for reasons beyond my control; my father had bad relationship w/ her, but good w/ me, and so she just hated me. she tried to be so mean to me, make me feel bad... so i never felt close or that she was really a good sister.

i don't know what's going on, if there's stuff going on in the background that causes your dad to favor your sister, but what you need to do is work hard at being a good daughter, sister, and student. You are NOT stupid..ur just letting other people get you down and negative about yourself. don't give ur sister a reason to say you are stupid... if u need help, ask ur parents for a tutor, or do study groups. if you can, try as hard as u can to either be nice to ur sister, or ignore her. if she tells ur dad and he believes her, then ignore ur dad too. live your own life, u deserve to be happy. u don't have to listen to what people say about you! u have the ability to change things.... i know in asian family it's hard, cuz ur the oldest. instead of getting so upset, concentrate on positive things u can do that will make u happy. what about spending more time w/ friends, or reading books, joining clubs, meeting new friends, YOUR friends. don't worry about her friends, they are younger and in a different crowd. the more upset u go, the more she will LOVE torturing you. if u don't care, and act like she is not there, she will get tired of it.

try to talk to ur dad calmly and rationally. if he doesn't listen, then He is wrong. it is wrong for him not to validate you or make you feel equal, or at least that he cares what u have to say. keep your head up, like i said, work on yourself: if u have low self esteem, work out, work on your appearance, FEEL beautiful, study, learn, ask questions, FEEL smart, make more friends, maintain good relationship w/ friends & family, FEEL accepted. you can do it!! :)