Why do I fall for all the wrong guys?

Question

I am the first one to say that I love WAY to easily. But why do I have to fall in love w/ my best friend (and he still thinks of me as a lil sister). Or why do I have fall for the top diver at my school, date him, and have my heart ripped out when he cheets on me. All the guys I love hurt me, but I'll fall for those same types again and again. HELP!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Don't be so hard on yourself, it's not like you can actually choose who to fall in love with! It's great to love so much, yes you're bound to get hurt but what's life without love. Never lose your faith in love, it took me a long time to finally fall for the right guy but boy is he worth it. It'd be the greatest reward to find him eventually [and you will!]. This whole thing may hurt right now for you, but later when you grow up you'll look back and feel lucky to have all these experiences - they're building you as a person, although you don't realise it yet.

Answer 2

U need to redo you~ Cause you will tend to keep meting the losers~ Really give yourself a make over~ And once you left the past do not go back~ meaning old ex's call do not talk~ Do not make up; U have to go forward~ And lastly you screen these dudes before they are worthy of your LOVE~ I tell woman time and time again you be in LUST~ Not love~ U fell for your best friend cause he had all the qualities you thought you wanted when he is really like you~ U need the opposite~ It will not be a person you chill with all the time~ Just give it time and do not rush into anything. Don't get discourage~ Its FRIDAY go grab a few of your girls and hit the mall~~ Its called Guy hunting its like buying shoes.. Its either yes we like them or NO way we don't . enjoy the weekend and don't forget do you first~ Make-up, flip flops- glossy lips and a great smile~ Oh yeah do the hair~ throw on a little smell good lotion and roll out. do not forget to take the cell to get all the numbers

Answer 3

I believe that everything happens for a reason and that every person in my life was brought to me for a reason. It took me a few years to figure out that if you pay attention, every failed relationship or broken heart teaches you a new lesson. Or perhaps the same lesson over & over again until you figure it out. It sounds like you keep making the same mistakes again & again. I have learned more about myself & what I want by going through all of that heartache. Also, I assume that you are still in High school and sorry to tell you this but guys your age are completely useless. They are fueled by all the wrong emotions and their friends ,who are equally useless. My advice: date an older guy & realize that in a few years you won't even remember half of these guys or care anymore. Just try to remember the lessons hard learned

Answer 4

There is a theory that you are subconsciously attracted to someone with the same attributes and flaws of your parents (or whoever raised you). That's why when you fall in love it "feels like you've known the person for all your life". Fact is, in a way, you have.

You have two choices. First choice: date who you are attracted to, but be prepared to work out whatever issues you have left over from childhood. Second choice: date someone who you like but don't have that intense physical attraction. Yeah, that's right, date a NICE guy. Try not to get bored. Give him a chance.

Answer 5

Well, you fall for the wrong guys because you haven't thought of exactly what you want in a guy.

Often girls fall into this trap because they are too swayed by a moment and not swayed by what kind of man they actually want to love.

Usually, the average female finally figures it out when she's 30 and then marries a guy that she really actually loves.

So before 30, consider it "trial and error." Not many women before the age of 30 end up with the "right guy."

Answer 6

I have the same problem. It took me years to realize I like the same kind of guys that act like my father who is a womanizing, cheating, sorry excuse for a man. Growing up without a father, I always felt I needed to know what it was like to have a man take care of me and protect me. I set myself up to be hurt over and over again because I never took the time to understand what I needed. Now I'm single and have developed a ******** sensor. It has a very distinctive smell so if you get a whiff from the next guy you meet, RUN FOREST RUN!

Answer 7

I am very much like you and I tend to get hurt in relationships too. I've found out that if you know which type of people that you don't want to date then when you see them in a club or the mall just avoid them. As much as you want to say he is cute and start liking him to the point of obsession just walk away. Give the under dog a chance and maybe me might just be the one for you.

Answer 8

You can't have the best of both worlds, If you go out with a really good lookin guy chances are your compitition will come along and snatch him, on the other hand if you go out with a guys who's looks isn't the best you won't have to worry too much of a guy dumping you unless you have some issues with your self. Got to remember good looking guys are a short term deal just like good lookin gals

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Take it from someone who has been abused by boyfriends and their father, you have to examine what it is about those types that are common. When you identify the commonality between them, you can sift through and consciously rid yourself of the attraction to the wrong types. The first step is identifying the things you don't like and running the opposite direction!