My sister-in-law had a baby when she was seventeen. Now, a year and a half later she is pregnant with twins and has four months to go, with no one to help her raise them. We are trying to convince her that adoption would be best for her situation since there are so many families that would love to take them in. Also, she wouldn't be neglecting her little girl to take care of her new babies and she would be able to go to college. She doesn't sound interested. Are we wrong to ask this of her? Do you think we should push the issue?
2006-08-03 11:16:19 · 12 answers · asked by tearsnomore2005 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was dead set against until I read the bio's of several couples. Maybe just ask her to read bio's or read about open adoptions or maybe go to support group or therapist that has experience with this. I've been on both sides of that decision, I've been there when a baby has been given away and if she doesn't want to she probably won't because even though the woman I knew was very prepared it was devastating. If she wants to she has to make that decision now so she can prepare herself for this.
2006-08-03 11:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Tough one...a mother and her cubs...where's she living or who is she living off of? Or does she have a job? who's taking care of the daughter? Is the father(father to be if not the same one) contributing financially? I was a single mom, fully supporting myself with no help from the father(my choice), but I was 31 and had a good job/career...The mother sounds kind of blase about the whole thing...How is she going to do it? I'd say give them up for adoption to a family that can love and support them properly instead of with the willi-nilli attitude she seems to have; may have to bring in Child Protective Services, unfortunately; get a 3rd, unbiased opinion....Also, someone should clue her in about using contraceptives before she has another 1,2,3.....
2006-08-03 11:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very wrong of you to push adoption. That is a issue that can be decided by her alone. She needs to see that you are going to be there for her no matter what she chooses. Thats what family is for.
2006-08-03 13:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 21:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should push the issue,but you weren't wtong to ask this of her.Just making a suggestion never killed anybody.and your right many of ppl would be glad to have the children.
2006-08-03 11:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by wvcountrygirl_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its really up to her in the long run....but you can bring it up to her but it would probally become a big fight...my cousin had twins and triplets a year and a half apart and she had a hell of a time with them even with help..(she is married and i helped babysit every other day)
2006-08-03 11:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't push her with something like this. why would any mother want to give up her child unless there was no other possible choice? as family you should help her.
2006-08-03 11:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she knows in her heart what to do. My question would have to be why can't you help her? Is there not any other family willing to help? You should be willing to stand behind her and help her no matter what she decides.
2006-08-03 11:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she married? Is she interested in going to college?
You can bring it up to her, of course, but if she isn't interested you probably won't change her mind. She will just get sick of seeing you.
Good luck to everyone!
2006-08-03 11:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Koriandr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you help her? And she could also do daycare. Just like a home daycare. They are cheap and very good.
2006-08-03 12:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋