I said I would never date a smoker...?

Question

and this guy that is really nice that I've started to like, I just recently noticed that he smokes. That's a bummer! Maybe he'll quit? What do you all think?

Answer 1

When he asks you out on a date, tell him that you would never get serious with him unless he stopped smoking. If he stops, you'll know he is a keeper.

Answer 2

That is what I used to think and then I married a smoker. When you really like someone it is easy at first to ignore the fact that they smoke but over time the smoking can become an issue in the relationship. My wife has tried to stop three times now. I don't force her not to smoke, but I let her know how much I appreciate that she doesn't smoke and that it is important to me that she not smoke so she will have a longer life and we can be together longer. Sure I will love her even if she smokes but I enjoy being close to her and kissing her a lot more when she doesn't smoke.

Answer 3

Yeah, it is a bummer. I always said that too. I eventually dated 2 smokers and ended up marrying one. He quit for a while, but started up again. We divorced. Not due to the smoking, but I did have all kinds of health issues due to his smoking. Anyway, I guess it all depends on how much you like the guy... and if you are willing to compromise.

Answer 4

On one hand, if you really like the guy, date him. But on the other hand, don't compromise your expectancies for a guy. I compromised on smoking once and dated a smoker. Slowly I was willing to compromise on more things. A guy didn't have to call me. A guy could call me fat. It got up to the point where I didn't think it was such a big deal when a guy hit me. Depending how important not smoking is to you, you can decide your course of action. If this is really important to you, tell the guy to quit if he wants to be with you. If he's worth it he will at least try to quit. And if it's really not that important to you, then be with him and be happy. Just don't compromise on things that are more important to you.

Answer 5

The best that you can't hope for is that he's considerate (i.e. - he brushes his teeth before seeing you, he only smokes when you're not around, never smokes in a car with you in it, etc). But don't count on him quitting, especially if you have some fantasy that he'll quit for you. He has to quit for himself, and he obviously has no desire to do so.

Answer 6

If u say dat u'll never date a smoker den u should stand by yo word. but if u really like dis guy n he's as nice as u say den maybe it'll work out fa da better. but talk 2 him n let him know dat yea u do hate smokers n try da get him 2 understand n maybe he will. open up 2 him n let him know how u feel maybe he will stop smokin if he knows dat its a problem fa u. But I think dat u should still continue 2 date him cuz nice guys don't com around 2 often. so give it a shot n see wat da outcome will be. make sure u update me on how it went 2! GOOD LUCK GIRL!!!!!!!

Answer 7

That really is a bummer!! I don't know dude, I wouldn't count on him quitting anytime soon..what if he only smoked when he wasn't around you?

Answer 8

He may. I quit for my wife. and I started smoking at 8, I havent smoked for 4 months.

Answer 9

If you are around him enough, tell him that the smoke is bothering you and you would appreciate it if he did smoke around you. Maybe then he will slow down and eventually quit.

Answer 10

That's funny I said that to about my husband and I married the guy anyway and FINALLY after 7 years he quit ( he went and got hypnotized) I doubt he will quit until he is ready.