im "with" this guy.
and he is so nice to me, but im into the whole romantic thing, and i want to go and tell my friends, Oh He Did This and That, and kinda boast.
but he doenst do anything so ill try hinting to him, like we were walking past a HUGE feild of flowers, and i was all like oh those are sooo pretty, and i thought he would of grabbed one for me because he was walking right next to them, but he just went YUP and kept walking so i picked myself a flower.
Then, i was feeling really sick and he was sitting at home with me and i was all like ohh some soup sounds so good, trying to hint to him to make me some, but he didnt, I made my own soup.
and one night he wanted to see me, and so i told him to throw something by my window, and ill hear it. Instead he calls and was all like MANDA IM DOWN STAIRS...on the answering machine.
way to be sneaky huh!
what could i do to be a little more obvious,my friends told him how i like the cute liitle things but he doesnt get it!
2006-08-03 10:30:06 · 21 answers · asked by Manda K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
huh huh huh hahahaha.......................very funny,forgive me i didnt mean o hurt u.but u rsituation is very funy.ur bf must be a dumb head like me,i am like that too,bcos somepeople dont really understand what ur trying to say bcos they r so innocent.but he loves u so much,u just need to make up with him.so u can get more close to him like.................,i hope u understand.u r very lucky to have such a innocent guy,he'll take care of u.believe me.i hope he doesnt talk too much too.am i right.then he is a reserved kind of a guy.so u sit down and let him know what u expect with him.understand him and trust him.bcos only understanding and trust are the two walls that guard any relationship 'ok
have a nice time and have al the happiness in this world,but dont leave him,he'll be mad if u do that.
byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
chris
2006-08-03 10:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by BLR_DEHRADUN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First - you shouldn't try to change him. You need to like him for who he is, romantic or not, otherwise this relationship is over before it began..
second - if that stuff is important to you than you need to tell him straight out, but don't ask too much of him. You can't expect constant romance from a guy (most guys...sorry guys - i know i'm generalizing here) so appreciate what he does for you. Most importantly, tell him what you like. "I just love when you bring me flowers" or something - but be aware that by telling him to do something will make it less romantic.
Third - maybe your ideas of romance are different. He may be doing things for that you don't even realize because you are so caught up with what he's NOT doing who may be oblivious to what he is doing. Whether it be watching your favorite Tv show instead of his, or taking you for dinner (including fast food) or holding open a door. They may not seem like your type of romance, but if you look, it might be there.
2006-08-03 10:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Spork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you are the one that doesn't get it.
Guys are not equipped with a magic girlfriend decoder ring. Quit trying to communicate by dropping hints. If you want your guy to know or do something, tell him!
Instead of "ohh some soup sounds so good" try "I'm really not feeling well, would you please make me some soup".
2006-08-03 10:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with many folks who tell you that you should let him know what you like. It is interesting in that women are simply more knowledgeable about romance then men are, and thus it is PERFECTLY natural for men to LEARN from women. A woman's skills in this department are superior to a man's, right from birth.
Once a man learns what women enjoy regarding romance, he will then be compelled to do these things for you, and he will do them at appropriate times...times when he KNOWS they will have maximum impact.
You simply now must assume the role as his teacher, because he has not had one before. If he had, then he would already be "educated" in the art of romance.
Just try this and I gaurantee you that he will respond, if he truly cares for you.
2006-08-03 10:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Guys don't take hints very well. My husband can be very romantic but if I really want him to do something I have to spell it out for him.
2006-08-03 10:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by naute_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the b/f is one heck of a dufus. Where did you meet this guy? We would all like to know so we can avoid making that same mistake.
2006-08-03 10:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...may be he is not romantic... and so you need someone that will fullfill your expectations. or maybe he does not see your hints...and you should fill him in. or maybe he got your hints and does not feel like playing the game..he thinks you are playing. you could also..have picked the flower..and gave it to him .maybe it is always about you....
2006-08-03 10:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As males we are generally clueless. Sorry; but, untlil you get to know each other better you are probably going to have to out right tell him.
2006-08-03 10:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men are like this...you really have to spell it out for them..and if things still dont change even a little I dont think he cares as much as you think he does
2006-08-03 10:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by Illy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being subtle is never going to work with this guy. If he doesn't get it now he isn't going to get it ever!! If you want romance this isn't the guy for you.
2006-08-03 10:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋