I recently had an ectopic pregnancy which came as a shock as I thought I was just going through a stressful time with work,well that what I put my long and heavy period down to.
how do I get it out of my head and get over it????
2006-08-03 10:18:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I think you may need to acknowledge that it was a real loss and to grieve your loss of a baby. Sorry, if this comes as a shock.
You need to take your time over grieving, we all grieve in diffferent ways.
It helps if you have people, or at least someone, you can talk to about this. There are also organisations that can offer information and support.
Try this site:
http://www.ectopic.org/index.asp
My Grandma had an ectopic pregnancy and I remember her trying to tell me about it - I was quite young, so I didn't really understand. She told me that she had a baby boy that died. She never forgot him - and allthough it is hard and sad, I think it is important that you remember.
My son died at 20 years old, so I know what it's like to experience deep loss.
Hope this helps, and you can contact me if you want:>)
2006-08-03 10:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Work through it. I am really sorry about what happened to you and that you lost your child.
No matter what if you miscarry or have an ectopic pregnancy it always comes as a shock. You then have to grieve for a child you didn't realise you were carrying - so there is the guilt of could I have done this etc would I have kept the child etc to get through as well.
If possible see a professional. You are going to have residual hormones going through your body - the pain you went through and the loss you have suffered need to be dealt with properly.
Good luck x x x
2006-08-03 10:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just do i had a miscarrage aswel i grieved the same as if i had lost a baby but u must move on try again i had a lovely baby boy after so there is light at the end of the tunnel. just that baby was not ment to be. pull ur self up an move on its the only way. you could write down every thing u feel put it in an envelope on put it away just get it all out. i get a really sad vibe from u an i feel u need to know that dont b scared to try again there is a baby there 4 u i can feel it.
2006-08-03 12:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Twiggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I have ever gone through anything like that, but I would guess that it will become easier with time. You have had a majorly traumatic experience and you need to give yourself time to come to terms with it. Allow yourself to go through all the necessary steps of grieving, and soon you will be able to get through each day without it weighing so heavily on your mind.
Maybe you could ask your doctor for counselling to help you to get over and through it.
Good luck for the future honey, I hope that things work out well for you.
2006-08-03 10:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting it out of your head and getting over it sound easier than they really are. All I can tell you is in time it will be easier but you will always have that "What If" question in your head! I had a miscarriage early in my pregnacy and it was very hard for me and I still wonder "What If" but just remember everything happens for a reason and God will take care of you. My oldest daughter says that baby just fell off of heavens cloud too early and God took it back until he was ready for us to have it.
2006-08-03 10:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. I had 3 miscarriages before finally having my son, and I was beginning to think I would never have kids of my own. You just have to keep going on with your daily life and the pain will not completely go away, but it will get better.
2006-08-03 10:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAME THING HAPPENED TO MY SISTER..she nearly died cos of it...just take a day at a time.. it is hard to get over something as emotional as this...hope you feel better soon
2006-08-03 10:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by whistleblower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through.
I have no good advice because I've never been through it myself.
Just wanted to wish you well.
2006-08-03 10:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by MoJoJoJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll need to take time to get your head together babe but it will get easier to remember less in time.
2006-08-03 10:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by barbie davidson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to get out and live your life,but set aside some "blue"time for contemplation and acceptance.good luck,it will get better.
2006-08-03 10:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by paintball puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋