First he wants to marry me, then he doesn't want to rush things.The again he says we can start planning, so I make a date at the register office to sign up for a wedding day and then he says I a pushy.
Shall I cancel the date at the register office?
We are going on holiday, so I would have to cancel tomorrow.
2006-08-03 10:01:18 · 13 answers · asked by Wednesday 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should go and cancel. It sounds like he is not ready or do not know what he wants yet. Tell him to let you know when he is ready and to select a date you both can agree on. Don't push the date on him or he will feel like you are pushing him. Let it come from him so he gets a sense of commitment and allow him to feel it was his choice or decision.
2006-08-03 10:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you have said that he wants to marry you but he doesn't want to rush things, that is good enough as you know this but you want the marriage to take place in nearest time, my sister let me give you a word of advise, first you should come to agreement with him b/4 anythings follow, so please don't rush things it shall be well okay. there is a proverb that says a patient dog eat the fattest bone so be patient and try to cancel the registration b/4 you go on holiday
2006-08-03 17:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by emma1st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds manipulative and contradictory. How long has this been going on? He may just be saying you can plan because he doesn't want to lose you but he doesn't really want to get married. Cancel the date. Re-evaluate this relationship and what your expectations are. If they don't match it is better to move on.
2006-08-03 18:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, cancel the date at the register office.
I'm tempted to tell you to cancel this guy. It sounds like he wants to control you whereas he can't even control himself. At best, he sounds insecure. I recommend you put on the breaks and go very slowly with this guy. Don't count on him until you're sure you can.
If it turns out that you two can't get your inner schedules in synch or that you can't give each other breathing room or that he is trying to contol you while trying to keep you from controlling him, break it off with him.
2006-08-03 17:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes dear cancel the register office and take yourself and a mate on holiday but don't forget to send him a postcard
2006-08-03 17:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would cancel, and next time he says he is ready, make him register and then he cant call you pushy, and if he changes his mind he can cancel it. Good Luck !
2006-08-03 17:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are those red flag warnings you should be paying attention to now BEFORE you marry him. Don't wait until 10 years and 2 kids from now to see it.
Good luck!
2006-08-03 17:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cancel the date. why are you holidaying with him before the wedding? save it for your honeymoon.
2006-08-03 18:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned what you really want from this. What are your true feelings?
How do you feel about the way he is behaving?
I think you are the one who probably knows the best thing to do.
Have faith in yourself and be strong.
Hope this helps:>)
2006-08-03 19:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by jayteaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would, least untill you get a straight answer out of him, let him do all the work then he can't say he's being rushed. gl :)
2006-08-03 17:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mickenoss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋