I work all day get home a little tired, the kids are fighting and I scream at them to be quiet. I take them out on the weekends and maybe sometimes during the week and yet they are never satisfied with what I do for them.
2006-08-03 09:47:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off, stop with the screaming. It doesn't do any good and just causes problems. Establish a routine for the kids and set punishments for fighting. Once you have control of your house again then you can start establishing other evening and weekend activities for the family to do together. Sure, kids are never satisfied but that is just life. Remember, there are punishments for too much complaining also.
2006-08-03 09:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'm sure you're exhausted between work and family and are just trying to do your very best. I feel for you. It's no wonder you get frustrated sometimes when you come home to a house of arguing children. It must also be frustrating when you feel like you're trying to take them out to spend time with them and they don't seem to appreciate it.
Maybe they are just acting out because they want your attention. Perhaps they are feeling like they get more attention, albeit negative, from you when they make a fuss.
I'm sure you're a wonderful mother and it sounds like you're really trying. Perhaps you could designate an hour a week (or a couple hours a week) to spend with each child ALONE. Just you and this child to spend quality one on one time with one another.
I have a friend who did this and she noticed a huge change in her family. I know it might not always be easy and you might not always feel like it after a long day at work... especially when you probably have a million and one other things that probably need to be done as well (a mothers work is never done * sigh *)... but it will be quality connection time that your kids will always remember.
Maybe just going for a walk with one for an hour. Or taking just one to run errands with you and making sure to talk tothem and ask them about school and friends and to tell them that you just want to make sure they know how special they are to you even though you're busy... and how great you think they are.
Reverse psychology always works. Tell a kid how great they are (point out the positive and they'll keep it up... point out the negative and they'll continue to act out).
Motherhood should come with medals! And mothers who work too deserve big KUDOS! Hopefully you have someone who can help you out by babysitting the other kids while you're out with one. Best wishes!
2006-08-03 17:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are never satisfied.
When my daughter turned 6 we surprised her with a week long trip to Disney World. The minute we came home she was crying because she didn't have a birthday party - never mind that we just spent thousands of dollars on this trip.
Kids are just spoiled.
2006-08-03 16:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question, how old are they?
My 4 year old is still in diapers, I'm getting yelled at by family and friends to beat him to make him potty train, But I refuse. He's always lying to me about everything, and he beats his baby sister up. I work a full tim job and attend college, but still manage to clean and cook for my little munchkins.
2006-08-03 17:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by MommyOf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stay home with my kids and they are still never satisfied with what I do for them.
2006-08-03 16:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mine and she's great, actually I feel bad that she has to yell at us. She loves us though and she hates the fact that she has to yell seconds after stepping in the house. You are not a bad mother though.
2006-08-03 16:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Loved By Someone Above 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE 3 KIDS AND THEY ARE NEVER HAPPY FOR WHAT I DO FOR THEM OR BUY THEM ETC.. THEY ALWAYS WANT MORE. I THINK THEY ARE SPOILED HONESTLY. I SAY SO CUZ I REMEMBER BEING A KID AND HARDLY GETTING ANYTHING OR BEING ABLE TO GO ANYWHERES AND WHEN I DID I WAS EXTREMELY GRATEFUL... JOIN THE CLUB OF FRUSTRATED MOMS...LOL
2006-08-03 17:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Holla!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like kids are never pleased with what you do for them now days.. I just think they are ungrateful.. that is how the world is becoming...
2006-08-03 16:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by chazzer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a two parent family??
2006-08-03 16:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop killing yourself for them!hard times,let them learn to work for the weedend treats!
2006-08-03 17:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋