I hate being in the car when my husband drives because he gets ticked off by other drivers easily (like when they cut him off, etc.) and yells, swears and makes gestures at them. He also speeds up and tailgates them and I´m afraid that one day the driver he is harassing will suddenly stop and we´ll have a serious accident or that the other driver will be a real psycho with gun and threaten us with it. Is there any way to tame my out-of-control driver husband, other than banning him from driving?
2006-08-03 09:39:37 · 10 answers · asked by Double 709 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are right to be anxious. He is increasing the risk that he will have an accident or piss off the wrong person. If he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong, it's likely he won't change. But one day when you are not in the car with him, sit him down and explain to him how it makes YOU feel, and your concerns. Ask if he could try to change. As far as some suggestions on how to do that, here is what worked for me: say the serenity prayer (or any other prayer you like), count to 10, think of the other person as sick, and realize that no matter what you do, the other person probably could care less, so just accept that there are jerks out there and try to avoid them. May sound easier said than done, but I it worked for me.
2006-08-03 09:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolmommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here road rage is a part of life. You just have to deal with stupid drivers who don't follow the rules of the road. You know how when one lane is full of cars waiting to turn or get on the freeway... then you will have people drive in the wrong lane and then cut off everyone in the correct lane behind them and make everyone wait even longer. You can't help but get really frustrated.
2006-08-03 15:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by westsida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't suffer from road rage, he suffers from being an idiot, and there's no real cure for that. People like that don't know how to tell the difference between a petty annoyance and an true personal transgression.
Tell him you don't want to go with him if he's driving ebcause he constantly puts your lives and finances in danger. If one of the people he's tailgating to "get back at them" does happen to slam on their brakes, even if on purpose, your husband is at fault for follow too closely and every witness will attest to it. And if he doesn't respect your life in the car, do you have children? Does he do this with them in the car? People are shot on the road for less.
2006-08-03 10:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...If you're the person who has it, believe two times and rely to 10 earlier than reacting. If you're sufferer of avenue rage, do not react to the motive force who's within the fallacious. You on no account realize who's wearing weapons at the moment and it does no longer take so much to make individuals pass over the brink and do anything loopy. I used to get rather uptight while individuals might tailgate me. Now what I do is turn up my rearview replicate and my part mirrors and I can't see what's going on in the back of me. Call me loopy, but when I can't see what's going on in the back of me, then I can't react and the tailgaters can experience my butt all they wish and I am oblivious to it. It used to be the one approach I might uncover to manage with my every day trip to my process. Good success available in the market! It rather is a RAT race!
2016-08-28 13:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by kernan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my girl friend is the same way ... she's all timid and meek in normal life, but she gets behind the wheel and I swear she's demonized. I think her husband found help with AAA Drivers, she went to a few classes and now is a really bad singer. Well, here's a few web's you could try. Good luck.
2006-08-03 14:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is his personality. Short of counseling and obtaining a whole new perspective on life, I doubt he will change. He is who he is...and I believe you married him knowing his driving habits?? I highly doubt he just sprouted this lately?? If so, then perhaps there is hope...maybe it is a mid life crisis?
Anyways, if tist was something that bothered you, honestly, you should have addressed it before the "I do" part.
About the only thing you can hope for now is that a) he chooses to listen to you because he loves you or b) you refuse to let him drive you anywhere. Take public transport.
2006-08-03 09:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, therapy for anger management. Did you hear about the road rage story of the guy following the teenager home, tried to run him over with his car, and the teenager, defending himself punched the guy and killed him? Get help for your husband as soon as possible before something tragic happens.
2006-08-03 09:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Truly_Complexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only cure for road rage would be to stop driving. There is also no cure for stupidity or impatience.
2006-08-03 09:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Anger management classes.
2006-08-03 12:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real azz-hole, maybe me and you should hook up. I'll even let you drive
2006-08-03 10:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋