We supposed to be engaged and start our family and suddently, at this point my boyfriend started postponing our plans. Our relationship is in a big trouble because, accidentally, I found out on my PC over 400 messages sent during the last year by my loved one to other women internationally! He was saying to me that he does not like parallel relationships but he lied to me. He did not even try to discuss with each other the situation. I got angry and hurt and I sent back to 12-15 women, a warning, humiliating for him letter . Then I wrote him what I found and what I did. He replied that I am stupid and he is bored with the situation. For him I am the lier, a mad woman and I need a psychiatrist. We have hurt each other. Our relationship ended from one day to the other. There is not any communication. Does anyone out there know how we can find a solution?
2006-08-03 09:38:36 · 9 answers · asked by Alkyon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry about that, i really feel so bad for you. all i have to say to you is move on and get another guy and make him jealous of you. get a new hairstyle that fits you for how you are, change your style of clothes, and start making him jealous.if you don't want to do that then just move on and 4get about him! because he cheated on you and that means that he didn't love you in the first place.
2006-08-03 09:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Chanel babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I know of love and relationships, the love we feel for our other is the most blissful in the beginning because, at this stage, we are willing to make changes, commit ourselves, and do our best to please each other. The love is giddy,happy, silly, and the stuff that memories are built upon. Real love, of course, takes years to grow, and throughout those years, there are a lot of very rough times, in which the only thing that keeps you together is history. I mean, the good history--a memory of those blissful days when he used to.... you used to....... (you fill in the blanks). There may be more than enough love to hold this relationship together, but it will not last for long. Your time of bliss has been diseased with dishonesty, anger, name-calling, jealousy, and betrayal. Your resentment for his deception will not fade with time, but will become stronger as the years pass and your relationship hits a snag or two. You will always feel that little bit of doubt, you will never feel that you have 100% of him. That is what love and marriage are about: giving your all and your best every single day. If he is doing this while you are engaged, it is doubtful that, without some counseling (for both of you) his personality / behaviors toward reaching out to strange women are going to change. If you are BOTH willing to get help, then try to stick it out; however, if he is not willing, then it must end immediately so you can begin the healing process. I wish you luck with whatever decision you make.
2006-08-03 17:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dead that loser,at least you found these things about him out now.Would you rather wait untill you were already married or pregnant and have children?He said to you that he doesn't like parallel relationships but how do you know it's just on the PC and that he hasn't seen any of these women.He told you already that he is bored with the "situation"meaning your relationship.So my advice to you is don't even wait for him to decide to stay with you or not.Make the decision for him.Leave him,some try to flip the script and make it seem like it's your fault and it's not.Find someone who will treat you better then that.You are better then that.
2006-08-03 16:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's not ready to settle down. i know it's hard but it will be harder if you stick around and then find out something like he's cheating on you. leave before you guys do anymore emotional damage to each other. it'll take time but you'll see he's not the one for you
2006-08-03 16:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only correct solution is you moving on. He lied and cheated and blames it on you. If you marry him you will have this for the rest of your life.
2006-08-03 16:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sounds like a train at the end of the track...
2006-08-03 16:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by kbjcw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing you should seek private counseling together. If he is not, I am afraid you may be doomed.
2006-08-03 16:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to beat a dead horse.
2006-08-03 16:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hon, its over.
2006-08-03 16:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋