its killing me. ive tried, ive even had my friends help me. but it never works. :[[
2006-08-03 09:35:08 · 20 answers · asked by azngrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just keep living your life. There are no tricks to forgetting something. You just have to keep going. Memories fade over time.
2006-08-03 09:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly the only real way to get over a previous love interest as I have learned is to one 'accept that they were not for you' - it is tormenting I know and it helps but they pop back into your head. The only real way to reduce or remove their traces from your mind (though obviously they will exist in your memory always) is to find someone new that you are happy with. You cannot say you have 'moved on' until you have 'moved on' to someone else. Bigger and better things. Till then find something that is important to you - it may be your work, your friends, a hobby or all three and do them, you may run into some great new people and a great new guy, and even if you don't anytime soon, you'll have fun and forget.
The main cause of such feelings is a lack of communication at the time of breakup because you cannot accept that it is over and you did not get everything cleared up before you parted ways. I tend to believe that one something is over it happened for the best and there are better things in store - and going back with an ex is usually a very bad idea. But to truly clear things up I would suggest if possible to talk to this person - maybe not with the intention of getting back together with them (assuming you were together before and you are not talking about a crush) - and get it all cleared up and know for sure there is no chacne of anything ever and that it is really over.
That will all help you move on but the key is new places, new people, new and better guys. Keep busy and keep happy. Good luck.
2006-08-03 16:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had feelings for him, those feelings will always remain in some which way or form.
The memories don't fade, no matter how hard you try.
The key is to find someone to make new memories with, so that you may look back and enjoy those as opposed to the other ones.
Make sure he is your best friend before you give your heart away again.
I hope my advice helped, and I apologize if it didn't.
Take care!
2006-08-03 16:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I am going though the same thing here I have a new b/f but the guy still pops back into my head..I am trying to be friends with the guy and it is beginning to help because I am learning my place with him.....We talk often but aren't dating.....being friends is better then nothing at all.....
luv, Emma
2006-08-03 16:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest growing a new head. LOL Just kidding. It just sounded good in my head is all --- really stupid.
Time is the only thing that wil help this situation. Try to stay busy with other people.
2006-08-03 16:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on the things that made you guys break up in the first place and realize that you deserve so much better!!!! Usually when I am stressed about something I do things to keep my mind off of it. Time heals of wounds and soon you'll be saying,"WHO?" about that particular guy!! Keep you head up!! Things will get better!
2006-08-03 16:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by diane f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same thing happen to me. I no its not easy. But think about. Y dwell over him when u can have a better and hotter guy
2006-08-03 16:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Libra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. And stop any fantasies about "what if.." or "he was so perfect...". Go find a new hobby, make new friends, or go out of town for the weekdn for some fun.
2006-08-03 16:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, it's tough to let someone go.
What is it that you want from him? Write it down, what is it you want to hear from him, to say he was sorry? To hear that he made the biggest mistake? What is it? Whatever it is, writ it down.
Once you write that down, understand these are the things you need to be saying to yourself. It's what you want to hear from yourself.
Turn them into afirmations, and then say dayly, I love myself, I love myself, I love myself!
2006-08-03 16:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try cutting off your head! Better yet, just get over it
2006-08-03 16:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋