visit. what would you do????????
2006-08-03 09:27:57 · 19 answers · asked by amanda w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was once in a similiar situation and I continued to visit but you know what it really was not healthy, because sence me and my boyfriend had broken up if I happened to run into him which was pretty much inevitable we would wind up getting into arguments, he would ask me infront of his family what am I doing there, it was embarrassing plus it sends mixed signals if you think about it because he may think you are really coming over to catch a glimpse of him. It is a hard situation when you get so clost to the family too, they feel like your own but you have to let it go. Send them a card on holidays and leave it at that.
2006-08-03 09:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, you are not his blood relative. You will never be able to get over this guy, if you stay intimately involved in his life to include his family. What do you really want? Do you still love this guy? Do you still want a relationship with this guy? If you really want this guy, then sure, go visit the family. On the other hand, if you are ready to move on, then it is time to cut the familial ties with his family. Personally, I would be ready to say good-bye because you will never be able to trust this hillbilly again. You will always wonder whether he is telling the truth or not. I've been where you are and I cut my losses and never looked back.
2006-08-03 16:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his parents what theyre son did and explain that you are no longer comfortable visiting.. If you attach yourself to this family, youre just going to hinder yourself from progressing into a different relationship.. The new bf will be like, youre still visiting your ex's parents? Maybe its because you still have feelings for him and using his parents as an excuse to see him.
2006-08-03 16:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by DtotheC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still visit with my ex's family on ocassion and she still visits with mine. We have children in common so that's entirely appropriate, but even minus the children a visit poses no particular impropriety.
2006-08-03 16:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the family of an ex wanted me to come over then i would go over to their house and completly ignore the ex. If your not comfortable with that, then you can either find out when he works, is busy, etc. then go over and chat with the family if you still enjoy their company. Another option is go out to lunch or other places with them so you wouldn't have to see him. Good luck!
2006-08-03 16:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. He and his family are your past now. You need to move on and cant do that visiting with his family.
2006-08-03 16:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go, if you do it will just prolong the break up and cause bad feelings between all thats envovled. AND remember once a cheater always a cheater!
2006-08-03 16:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by beast5320012001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you won't feel uncomfortable being around your ex, go ahead and visit with his parents. There's nothing wrong with that at all.
2006-08-03 16:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by DragonL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks! Perhaps just tell his family that you really like them and appreciate that they like you but it's too difficult for you. Unless it isn't difficult in which case, go over there, have fun...eat dinner! Whatever.
2006-08-03 16:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by SBean_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need people that love us in our lives -- as many as possible. Visit them, care for them, let them care for you. They didn't cheat on you.
2006-08-03 16:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋