Is there anyone who believes once a cheat, but never again?

Question

I always hear people say once a cheat always a cheat or if he did it once he will do it again. Does anyone believe that it is possible to have just made a mistake (sence we all are human) but to not ever make that mistake (cheating) again? Or how about this: Those who were or are cheaters
have you ever cheated on someone and regretted it, but that person took you back? If so did you cheat on them again or if not yet would you?

Answer 1

I think I understand the question.

I personally wouldn't take the person back but that is a matter of trust more than anything else. Whether he will cheat again depends on many factors such as why he cheated in the first place, how he reacted to you finding out, how he truly feels about you, etc.

It is possible he won't cheat again. It is possible he will. Every relationship is different and in the end it's for ou to decide. I hope this helps. However; if there is hope in your mind for salvaging this relationship you two need to sit down and talk it out WITHOUT outside interference.

Answer 2

If you get cheated on, and you get back with that person, you got what's coming to you when they cheat on you again. If you still buy their bs and get back together with them a third time, you should be shot. This paints an ugly picture for cheaters, but then again, there are millions of people out there who don't cheat. Why would you stay with one who does? If someone makes you a promise that they will be faithful, and then they cheat on you, why would you expect them to be faithful when they renew the same promise that they broke? The reason they cheated in the first place is because 1) they thought they could get away with it, 2) they didn't care enough about the consequences not to, and 3) at that moment, they preferred someone else over you. Why would you go back to that? There's a very strong chance you will get cheated on again by someone who already has cheated before. And let's face it, you can only trust someone until they have broken your trust. You should cut loose and find someone that will never betray you.

Answer 3

There are exceptions to everything...and although situations are similar, not a single one is the same. Different people, different emotions, different stand points. I do believe it is possible to cheat once and never again because I was the one that cheated once and never again. I have also been in a relationship where I was cheated on, gave him a second chance, and he did it again so thats how I came up with this answer. I do believe it's possible, but not common.

Answer 4

I think once you forgive a man he automatically thinks he can do it again. But the bottom line is if he cheated the first time then that means he doesn't feel about you the way he should therefore he is likely to cheat again. If your really really into someone, you wont cheat the first time. There is no such thing as making a mistake when it comes to cheating.

Answer 5

It depends on the person. In the case of my husband, once a cheater, always a cheater is true. He cheated, I forgave. He cheated again, I forgave AGAIN. He cheated a third time, I KICKED HIM OUT! "THREE STRIKES AND YOU'RE OUT BUDDY!" He will probably never change and will always be unfaithful. But in my instance, once when I was in highschool, I cheated on one of my ex's. He never found out but I've always felt very guilty because he was really good to me even though I didn't care for him like he cared for me. I never wanted to hurt him so I was actually relieved when he broke up with me to go to college in anotherstate more than 500 miles away, because I felt I didn't deserve him for what I did even though, again I didn't feel for him like he did for me. I swore to myself that I would never cheat on anyone EVER again, and I haven't. It just depends on the person's morals, conscience, soul and if they actually have a heart or not. I think though, a women is FAR less likely of repeated infidelities than a man, but not always true, women can be just as heartless.

Answer 6

I don't think once a cheat always a cheat, because I cheated on an ex-boyfriend one time. we are good friends now and he forgave me. I got married and I would never cheat on anyone again because I felt way too guilty after the first time.

Answer 7

I believe it is possible to cheat and never again, but its not very likely. I know from personal experience a lot of cheating comes from a lack of fullfilment in a relationship. So in order to stop a cheater dead in his tracks you need to see why he cheated. Without Fixing that problem no matter what he says, he'll do it again.

Answer 8

Fair or not fair, you lose your credibility for just one lie, cheating one time or doing any other act that destroys credibility!

Would you trust a bank that was charged with stealing funds from a customer? Would you give a job to some one fired for stealing? Would anyone marry a person that was caught having sex the day before their marriage?

All these questions are why your parents teach, NEVER LIE, NEVER STEAL, most of the time you never get a second chance.

Answer 9

if you take someone back who cheated on you once b4, there is always that in the back of you mind that it is going to happen again and i just wouldn't put myself through all that in a relationship. maybe you can cheat once and never do it again, but who knows as long as you dont get caught then no one will ever know that you cheated again? uhm?

Answer 10

It would be difficult to trust someone who cheated on you once. You'd always wonder if they're "at it again".

It is possible that the cheater is not stupid enough to make the same mistake twice, though. Good luck.