Im pregnant.. Do i have to wait till the babys born to have the dad sign away his rights?

Question

I just found out im pregnant.. I know the father doesnt want kids I KNOW this... but I think I want the baby... do I have to wait till the babys born b4 I can have him sign his rights away. He doesnt know Im pregnant yet

Coincidently.. when I concieved it was the same time he told me he didnt want any more kids .. he is 40 has 2 and is divorced. I was told a yer ago my chances of pregnancy were extremly slim.. after a health condition I had.. I have a 9 year old son. I am canadian. and am thinking of having the baby without him.. I dont care for support.. I know him knowing he has a child would make him do the right thing.. but I have a choice and think he should too... give him the option to sign over his rights.. ADVICE PLEASE

Answer 1

I am also a mother and feel strongly that fathers get their own chance to decide if the want to be a part of their childs life or not. I know what you said but you have to be sure. This child is 1/2 his you know. I feel strongly for children to have two parents. I may not know much about rights and all but make sure you give him some rights. Good Luck.

Answer 2

No. You can get a test done to make sure that he is the father and let him sign the rights away. But remember that he is responsible, just as you were, to provide for birth control and when it fails or wasn't used at all he should be held accountable. I don't know your financial situation, but are you really in a state that you can raise a child all by yourself? Are you financially secure enough? He should be responsible for this child just as you are. Maybe in the future, when you have met a good man, he will adopt the child and become the father. Until then, the natural father should do his part.

Answer 3

In order for him to sign away his rights, he must first agree that he is the father. If you are married, there is no real need to do this unless he does not think it is his, then a paternity test is involved. Hospitals usually provide agreement forms. He must refuse to sign if you are not married. Then you must go to the child support division and they will set up the paperwork to sign away his rights. This way, if you plan on marrying someone else, he can adopt the child as his own.

Answer 4

As in giving up all his parental rights? Why would you want to do that? If he does that, you can't get child support, which you may need (babies are EXPENSIVE!). Even if he doesn't want to see the baby, he still has a legal obligation to help pay to raise it...he DID make it after all.

If you decide on adoption, then you will need his written consent, and in most cases and states (you need to check with the authorities in your state), you can accomplish this before the baby's born.

Answer 5

You can not get rights signed away until someone else is ready to sign on...this is for welfare reasons. My now ex husband wanted to sign off on our son after he was born but couldn't until I remarried. Then you have to live together for 6 months prior to filing for the adoption. If you aren't married you don't have to put him on the birth certificate. You actually can not put him name on the birth cert unless he willingly sings it. If he doesn't and you want child support you have to file for it and they will do a DNA test.
When my now husband adopted my son it was very easy. We had lived together for 6 months so we filed right away and called my ex husband up he just went to the court and signed a paper on his own. A caseworker came in to make sure everything was fine and then 2 months from filing the adoption was finalized.

Good luck.

Answer 6

No, if you guys are not married then according to the law the kid is yours and yours only, unless you put the father's last name on the baby then that gives him the rights of a father and you can put out a child support case on him. But if you dont want that you dont have to tell him anything you dont wanna tell him...its your child.

Answer 7

Legally he cannot sign away his rights unless you were to marry someone that would be willing to adopt the child. He is, however, responsible for child support whether he has contact with the child or not. Take him to court and have his wages garnished...most states do child support this way now to cut back on the # of deadbeat dads.

Answer 8

Well in some states you can have the father sign away rights b4 the baby's born but in other states you havwe to have a dna test to prove that it is his kid hes signing the rights away too.

Answer 9

just because he says now or has in the past said that he doesn't want kids, for all you know he could have a change of heart. either way you have to talk to him about it so maybe you'll be plesantly surprised by the out come. OR the worst way i can think of is just not telling him. what he doesn't know won't hurt him. that way you avoid a custody/child support/signing away rights battle. i would really talk to him though.

Answer 10

You have to wait to have him sign away his rights...but he needs to know u are pregnant. And unless u are married to someone who will take over the financial responsibility of the baby, I would not let him sign over anything. He made a baby and should provide for it.

Answer 11

guess what? the court doesn't allow a biological parent to sign off his paternal rights UNLESS there was someone willing to adopt the child: this is called a step-parent adoption. they won't allow a mother to take full responsibility UNLESS, OPTION number two is used.... put "UNKNOWN FATHER" on the birth certificate! swear that you have NO IDEA.