would you get involved with a women with a child?

Question

If you really liked her, but you were afraid that you wouldn't make a good father figure. What would you do?

Answer 1

Two things: Talk to her candidly about your concerns; she's taking the larger risk anyway. Parents have to carefully consider who's allowed around their children, and I'm sure she would appreciate your honesty. Next, put your role into perspective. You're not necessarily there to be a father figure. The child already has a father and as men we're not inter-changeable parts. Your role may be to model positive male attributes and to be a friend. You should easily be up to that task.One note of caution however: Assess your feelings for this woman carefully, because kids get attached easily, and it is harmful to children to have people running in and out of their lives. Don't get involved if you don't think you can hang in there.

Answer 2

Don't go into thinking of yourself as a father figure. Your getting way ahead of your self. Most single women with children HAVE fathers for their kids, and some will even resent you coming into the relationship thinking like that. Just look at the women first. Do you like them? Are they worth seeing again? Then all that other stuff will fall into place.

Answer 3

If I were involved with a woman who had a child, I would communicate my fears and/or excitement of being a father to that child. She's been doing it for a while on her own, so chances are she can help you out.
Most important part of being a good father figure is to always be there for that child.

Answer 4

As a young man, I made it a strict rule for myself to not get involved, dating or otherwise, with a single mom.
The results were, no kids out of wedlock for me; and not getting stuck in some kind of relationship where I'm just one guy, probably in a string of guys, to be with her and have her kids(s) wonder if I'm their dad or not.
I got married when I was 26; we had a beautiful child together; I'm raising her now because I'm now a widower.
My daughter's a great kid; doing very well in school, band, and sports.
Save yourself for when you're ready to be a real Father, not just a father-figure.

Answer 5

I think any guy that was not willing to be involved with a woman because of her child may be a selfish and shallow person. If he was afraid of his image towards the child, he better make himself presentable and try to be a good man for the child's sake. If the man truly loves the woman, he will easily want to project a good image so she won't dump him.

Answer 6

I understand where you are coming from,but you cant let that step in the way of happiness.Start out by being her childs friend.Let that child get use to you being around.Find out what the woman wants,she may not be looking for a father figure in her childs life.Just take things slow and everything will play out.

Answer 7

no one asked u to be the childs father the child has one of those but u can learn to love the child n learn to take care of it.. maybe the chikd needs someone like u to take an interst in them n show them how to do things. women with kids can be great as long as the are adults

Answer 8

Being the person I am, if I really liked the girl, I would do my best to like the kid too. And try to make a happy family to the best of my ability

Answer 9

it all depends if i am ready to be a father figure and i really like her i would. but if I'm not i would not get involved with her

Answer 10

I've been involved with several women with kids and had no problems at all. Their kids liked me and I liked them. I guess it's a thing of mutual respect, and they knew I cared about their mother. That's why I got about 9 kids that ain't mine!