what should i do about the ex?

Question

Oh boy do i have an issue.My step son is here visiting and his mom is a u know what.When i leave the house for a few shell call or hell call her.and the minute i walk in he hangs up the phone.There is really a lot to this whole story but shes coniving and is trying to get info out of him she makes him feel bad because he is here and his sister went home early.She gives him a guilt trip.She also is munchhowsin by proxy if i spelt it right.what a horrible mother.This poor child is on 6 different medicines and i looked at the labels and it is three different drs. what should we do/ i really want to take her to court.my husband pays 550.00 doallars a month for child support and only gets them once a year and she call almost daily when they are here.when they came out to visit she bought the girl 100.00 dollars worth of clothes for her and told him she had no more money for his.what ya think of that bs?give me some great advice please

the girl went home because she didnt get her way and we have rules here just because they come once a year doesnt mean they can have run of the house.so she started wineing and crying so her mom came and got her yes they live out of state and it far,but last time they came it was both of them who went home early i understand they are kids and im a very good step mom i do lots for them but we do have rules.we only have them once a year because when they got divorced it was nasty and instead of fighting he gave up but i dont quite when he goes home we are going to get a lawyer and we want them every other holiday, 1 month in the summer and in between there we will go out there to visit and my husbands familiy is out there so we can visit them to.we also always have to find a way for them to get here and get home im dont with that also from now on she can meet us half way both ways.

Answer 1

sounds like there are some issues that need to be taken care of.

starting with the medications from different doctors. while he is with you, id take him to a doctor that you trust and get him where he needs to be from that angle.

maybe he feels guilty because he likes you and his mother is helping him along with that one.

does he want to stay with you and your husband? does he want to go home to her without telling you and thinking that he is going to hurt your feelings?

i take it that he lives in another state. why does your husband only get them once a year?

why did his sister go home early?
is there a problem between you and the girl?

what info does she want that she doesnt already know?
there arent a lot of details on this one. is she trying to get more child support?

why not sit him down and calmly ask him what he wants and see what he has to say without a big scene?

he is only a kid. he doesnt know you that well because he sees you once a year. he sees her every day other than when he is with you. give the kid a break

Answer 2

Its hard. You got to tell the kids to spend their time here with their dad. To think for themselves and just have a good time. Call SS about all the medications and 3 Dr's. Maybe unplug the phone during the evenings so that you guys can have some decient time with the kids. About visitation. 1 time a year to too little. they need to see their dad and step mom more often than that to feel like a family

Answer 3

There is not much you can do. Love the kids. Love your husband but it is his problem. While they are visiting, try to make sure they spend lots of quality time with their dad. Unfortunately you are not in control. If hubby doesn't want a custody battle, it won't happen. And you probably couldn't win anyway. Breathe and concentrate on cooking dinner for everyone.

Answer 4

Sounds like W-A-A-A-Y too much drama.

Answer 5

call me

Answer 6

kill them all. execution style!