can anyone help...please?

Question

I met this amazing guy, online of all places. We hit it off right off the bat. He lives in another state but came out in May and we just hung out all the time. He was just the nicest guy I've met in a long time and we have TONS of things in common. We even became bf and gf while he was here. we didn't have sex cause he was only here for a week and we were so busy enjoying the sites and each others time. He went home and we talked everyday for a week online and the phone....Now I haven't heard from him in 3weeks.

I don't know what happened. Everything seemed to be going well, and he just left, and now i'm lost? Should i let go? keep hope alive? what? someone please help!

Answer 1

To meet someone on-line and hit it off is a great thing...You just have to remember that most people you meet on-line was looking for someone when they met you..
I am not saying that he moved on or left you..Maybe he is just busy and he has no spare time...
Give him space and let fate lay where it may..
If it was meant to be he will contact you and then you two can go from there..
I am glad that when you two met for the week that you did not get intimate with eachother......Then you would be a mess...

continue to think about him and always remember what he was and may still be ....
.............A FRIEND YOU MET ON THE NET....
live your life and keep all doors open..You never know who may knock..

Answer 2

Sure this all normal. I am a beginner at Judo and Jujutsu, so, I won't pretend to be an expert, but, it sounds normal to me. If you have been doing Judo for a while (like 2 years or more) there's a bit of a problem. But, beginners, sure, it's going to be hard. Judo throws are somewhat easy to learn. But, perfecting them (the timing, strength, power, kuzushi, etc.) takes a lifetime to master. So, just because you know are doing a throw in general there are a lot of smaller parts that make up a great throw. You are probably missing all of those smaller pieces and just have the bigger piece (something that resembles the throw you are trying). It's always going be hard to throw a heavier person no matter if you are a beginner or black belt. If someone is your size or lighter, sure, they are easy to throw. It's just that common sense you deal with something heavy it's always harder to move. A car will be harder to move than a bicycle. So, "Judo Magic," won't produce the magical throws who can also throw everybody effortlessly. It will always be harder worker for a bigger guy. I think you just need more time. I'm sure there are many Judoka who can throw bigger opponets. It is all in the details. I mean I'm right here, trying to throw people myself on a weekly basis. I have the idea of about half a dozen throws in my arsenal. But, I don't have my timing, kuzushi, strenght, power, technical mastery, or it down. With lighter people I can just muscle my way through it and plant them on the ground. But, here is the other part of your question, if they are skilled and resist, they are harder too. But, it's the same thing as the bigger guy, a lighweight skilled resister just takes all those smaller parts of mastery too. It takes time. I see all the potential of the many Judo throws, takedowns, and sweeps. There is more than one way to take anybody down too. Judo has many weapons to choose from as you go up the ranks too.

Answer 3

I have hope!

This sounds like the kind of stories that only happen in movies! I say don't let go until he gives you the reason for this dropped communication. Call him, send him an email. Explain to him that you want to know why you too are going from talking to each other everyday to nothing for 3 weeks. You deserve at least an explanation, it's only fair.

Good Luck! I'll be crossing my fingers!

Answer 4

Let it go. You sound like you are probably young. Long distance relationships are hard between 2 adults who know what they want out of life. They would be even harder between 2 people trying to figure out where they are going. More than likely he has a girlfriend or has met someone where he lives. If he wanted to talk to you, he would call. Let it lie and get on with life!

Answer 5

This is normal. Especially when you meet people online. I've heard from so many people who have relationship problems that about 90% of the time that they meet someone online, they just suddenly stop talking for some unknown reason. You know what it might be? He may have met someone else online. It happens. Especially with online dating services.

Answer 6

What I've learned from prior experience is when a man does something out of character to be careful. There's usually something very wrong. Every time a man disappeared on me there was always some apology and a grand story. Later to only find out there was another woman envolved. i say save yourself as much heart ache as you can. You already attached but move on and do it fast. the longer you'll wait for him. The harder it will be to reconize lies when he tells them.

Answer 7

Men pull this disappearing act -- if he wants you, he'll call you. In the meantime, find a guy who is closer to home who can spend time with you. You might be much happier in the longrun if you don't have to worry about a long distance relationship.

Answer 8

Absence makes the heart grow fonder........ Your mind creates this super human they could never live up to. You where happy before you met him you will find happiness again. From experience it takes about two weeks to a month. excluding bank holidays when you get a day off.

Answer 9

Try contacting him by either phone or an email letting him know that if he doesn't respond within some time that u r going to assume that he wants nothing to do with u. If he doesn't respond then u have your answer.

Answer 10

I would call him and say I have not heard from you and i just wanted to make sure things are okay.I have been thinking about you and im wondering where we stand?I hope you are still interested in me,if not than please just tell me so i can move on,but i really like you and hope you feel the same way.