I have a 9 year-old son?

Question

Does anyone think that sex eduation for 4th graders is too soon? Considering that kids are having sex starting in the 4th grade. Is this too early of an education or should it be stalled until 5th grade. I would like to know anyone thoughts, feelings, reactions ,etc on the matter. Thanxs

I know in todays time, with all the videos, music and etc. I just want my son to be better educated. We already had the talk with him last year. Because one of his camp counselers was pregnant and she was 16. And he had questions, thankfully his dad gave the talk

We also gave him the moral speech. About respect a girl, no sex rule before marriage, etc..

Answer 1

i understand your concern and even fear...i feel the same way. i think the only thing that really has done any good (this is how my parents did it) and what we do with my god daughter, is we are completely open about sex and just make it conversation, as well as my parents were always loving toward each other (kisses and hugs) in front of us kids. so that not only made me more comfortble in asking about sex but i saw that you do these things only when you love someone or are married.
with doing it this way, i not only waited (i was 18) but i even told my parents when it happened and we talked about it and if i was safe or not etc....and i knew what to expect so i was safer and smarter. also it instilled trust between us and i learned i could talk about anything with them and not be scared. we are very close to this day and i still ask them anything and can talk about anything.
honestly i think what you teach your children will be the best thing. yes the schools teach the statistic and such but what you can provide in demonstrating that love and marriage is the most important part of sex (whatever your beliefs are). so in the end i feel like you that it's too early, but it is appropriate to thier age and it is important with how quickly kids are doing it these days also keep in mind that unlike your family, there are some parents that don't talk about this with thier kids and that is the only way they learn.

Answer 2

First of all, kids are not having sex in the 4th grade. That sounds like paranoia caused by a media circus to me. I am a teacher and I have worked in 4th grade classrooms, and I can assure you, it is not the case. The reality is, it may be true for a VERY small handful of kids, and statisics are manipulated and blown way out of proportion by the media.

However, it is not too soon to start sex education. Just take it easy, and don't give all the information out right away. At this age, kids should know about periods, erections, body development, and where babies come from. the frank sex talks can wait a few years.

Kids will come home having learned information from peers at school, but don't let this alarm you. Even when we were kids, this was the case. It does not mean your child is having sex. It usually means one of your child's friends has an older sibling.

Answer 3

It depends on what that sex education entails. By the time they are in fourth grade I would assume that there has been some discussion of the physical differences between male and female and some discussion of menstruation since it will be starting in the next couple of years for the girls.

Kids in the fourth grade are not having sex they're having mutual molestation. Such early sexual experience has the same side effects but with the added guilt of knowing you agreed to it! All children need to be warned away from such experimentation until they are adults old enough to make mature decisions and accept the consequences of their actions.

I do believe in early education of basic facts. The children will inform you of what they're interest level is. The embarassment factor sets in by 6th or 7th grade so parents need to get their 2 cents in before that. My son knew all of the basic facts by 8 because his father and I were having a second child.

Answer 4

No, but remember, not all kids are out having sex that early. Kids that are allowed to have boyfriends/girlfriends are the ones that are more likely to be having sex early. It is up to the parents to install morals into the kids. Don't rely on what they teach the kids in school. They don't listen (Which is obvious by some of the questions that we see on here from kids), and they don't tell the kids everything that they need to know. They push not having sex until marriage, instead of telling them that they should be using birth control if they ARE going to have sex. Kids are not going to listen to that. Make sure that your son knows about condoms, and what can happen if one were to break.

Answer 5

We learned all about it in school in the 4th grade. That was in the early 90's. Kids are doing everything and more younger and younger these days. Be open with your son, let him know he can ask you anything and that it is ok. It is much better for him to learn from you than from his friends.

Answer 6

usually sexual decision inclinations do no longer likely appear till puberty or very on the fringe of the onset of puberty. He could be exhibiting gay inclinations early or he could be purely exhibiting his affection for his acquaintances. If he pulls away once you return into the room, he has gotten the belief from someplace that that's frowned upon to hold his pal's hand. He could be an extraordinarily gentle youthful guy and protecting arms is a competent way for him to empathize together with his pal. i do no longer think of at this factor you ought to set down and have a severe communicate with him. once you return in the time of him protecting arms together with his pal, purely reassure him that that's ok. do no longer make him experience self-wakeful approximately it. yet you ought to maintain him reassured that's ok, yet some human beings won't like what he's doing.

Answer 7

I think education on sex should start in the very beginning. Respecting one's own body, respect of others. Contraception, education on stds and hiv. Of course one has to use language appropriate for the age but on is never too young to learn.

Answer 8

20 years ago, that's when WE were taught the basics in school, then again in 7/8th grade and again in 10th.

Personally I feel that it should be the parents who give the kids the "talk" but I guess with so many parents too busy with work and social groups and soccer practice, yaddy yaddy, I suppose they really can't fit that sort of trivial nonsense in.

What schools should REALLY teach - since it is the schools usually doing this sort of thing - is PREVENTION!!!! How to prevent pregnancy and STDS.

Answer 9

I was in 5th grade when we watched "the film" about how the female reproductive system worked and learned about periods. That was back in the early 80's I think.

Answer 10

In this day & time, no....you wouldn't believe some of the things my kids came home saying and asking from elementary school...

Think about it, they start drug education in 4th grade. It's really quite sad, our kids miss out on so much of their childhood and innocence...