My black sister and her Indian friend are falling for each other but the problem is they are from totaly different backgrounds and cultures. English is the guy's 2nd language while while English is like my sisters 1st language. i haven't spent alot of time with them but the little time i have had with him leads me to beliv that if they ever act on thier feelings there is a lot of mountians for them to climb
what are the chances of a real long lasting relationship?
2006-08-03 08:57:06 · 33 answers · asked by Nikita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if its true love they can overcome any obstacles.
2006-08-03 08:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by curious lupi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance. It's not so much their background that will make a difference as it is their attitudes about it. If either is convinced that their way is best simply because it's what they know, then the mountains you mentioned will be much more difficult to surpass than if they are both open minded and enjoy trying and learning new things. I've had three major relationships in my life. One was with an American, one was with a Hispanic, and I'm with an Asian right now. So far the latter has been the most successful relationship, and yet you could say that hers is the culture most far removed from my own. So, it's not really the simple fact that two people are from different cultures, it's the personalities of the individuals.
2006-08-03 09:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by aghostprofilebeingempty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why already thinking about a long lasting relationship? Just let them enjoy the moment for crying out loud. Let them worry about a long term relationship after they START a relationship. If they have problems, they can deal with it, otherwise they will break up, it's really as simple as that. Don't think you can "protect" her from strife because strife is what life is about. Only babies get whatever they want, real people have to work for everything.
2006-08-03 09:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ken Jackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother fell in love with a german girl, he didn't speak any german, and she only a little english. They are now both fluent in both languages and happily married with two bilingual children.
Love can conquer anything, and climb the highest mountains.
I have every confidence that if they want it to work, there will be a way around the obstacles in their path.
I wish them both all the best for their future
2006-08-03 09:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With God all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). Their differences will produce either something very ugly, or something very beautiful, depending on what use they themselves choose to make of those differences.
I gather they both live in your country rather than India. So optimally, she needs to visit India for a goodly length of time, with him, meet the parents, read up so she knows what questions to ask when she arrives, etc. and learn his native language fluently. This on top of all the other things one has to do to make a relationship work.
2006-08-03 09:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it matters on the language it matters on the fellings you have for that person, there are ppl who fall in love each other and they barely understand each other and there are ppl who cant even hear or speak but still love each other. You dont have to talk to explain what you mean it can just be your body lanuguage or the things you do for that other person, I hope the relationship lasts!!! True love is hard to bring down, always remember that!!! -{:o)'
2006-08-03 09:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must accept them for who they both are. My best friend was a guy and when I found out who he was dating I wasn't shocked. I thought they were just really good friends that hung around with each other. My friend and his mate have been serious and I was even invited to their union-wedding. I don't think that they are marriage by the eyes of the LORD but I am happy for the both of them.
They have been together for over 10 years.
Hey I am straight, but what ever makes them happy.
2006-08-03 09:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by michelegokey2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really love each other and there are no conflicts about their race or beliefs then there shouldnt be a problem. I believe people should embrace other cultures and not see a relationship as problematic just because there aren't similarities in their personal characteristics
2006-08-03 09:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Z Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both speak the language of love, there will be no problems once they work out together. Just support your sister when needed.
2006-08-03 09:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kev's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as they like eachother there is not problem. Just because they are from different cultures doesn't mean that it won't work out. Give them a chance.
2006-08-03 09:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More often than not you will get some sort of obstacle in any relationship, if they are truly in love they will over come this. where there's a will there's a always a way
2006-08-03 09:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by sophie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋