my Three year old is a terror. how do i calm him without spoiling?

Answer 1

Time-Out for 3 minutes.

Maybe ask him what is wrong.

Be consistent with the time outs.

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Answer 2

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Answer 3

Most three year olds are terrors the key is to survive! Try to be consistent. My current 3 year old (Youngest of four) absolutely despises time out. So that is where he goes when he's naughty. Amazingly enough he stays there!(The first of my four to do so) My other's responded somewhat better to toy time out. That is where a favorite item goes out of reach when naughtiness occurs. Save the spankings for when he actually endangers himself for example like leaving the house without your knowledge.

He is getting old enough to start calming himself a little. Make sure there is a treat such as getting to sit on your lap for a while after he has calmed himself after a tantrum. A good friend of mine always wiped their kid's face with a cold wet rag during their tantrums and it was extremely calming to the child.

Of course the best thing to do is to avoid the tantrums as much as possible which is easiest when the child is actively engaged in activities. So try to make sure that there are lots of things to do during the day. Some kids like a lot of structure others need more free play time. Study your child and try to determine what types of situations precipitate the tantrums. Of course this is not fool proof my children consistently hate eating at the dinner table from ages 2 1/2 to age 5 1/2 but we still do it.

Answer 4

Now for a serious answer: The next time the little dude spazzes out, get down to eye level and start whispering to him. Trust me, this works. Little children are fascinated by whispering, and usually calm down long enough to listen to what you have to say.

At 3, distraction is also a very useful tool. Combine the two, and whisper to him something like "When you stop screaming, we could go play Legos for a while." Spending time with him is not spoiling him.

Finally, when at home, let him scream it out. Seriously. Completely and totally ignore him, even to the point of stepping over him to leave a room. Little ones HATE--absolutely HATE to be IGNORED!

Do not yell; bully; threaten; hit; spank; slap; or otherwise engage a toddler who is throwing a tantrum. That is their main goal. Try the above suggestions--they will work.

Answer 5

I take it you spoiled him in the past? Giving him everything he rants about is not the answer. You are the parent. Put him to bed if he throws a fit, or make him sit in the corner until he can calm down and talk nicely.

You have to explain to him why he can't have or do everything he want, that there are rules and you inforce them. If you don't inforce them you will have a terror on your hands for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

Your 3 year old may be acting like this due to the fact that he doesn't have boundaries; and needs limits . I think you can punish him, or put him in time out; without hitting him, and that would work fine. Kids begin to get spoiled when parents give them whatever they plead for, and whenever they cry the parent talks to him in a sympathy voice. You would never spoil your kid if you know when to answer as a parent; and when to just let him cry.

Answer 7

He may just be going through the Terrible Twos at three (I had a sister who didn't go through that stage until she was five). This is a really rough time. What I've found is the best way to deal with it, honestly, is to just change the subject. If they're pitching a fit about one thing, distract them with something like "Hey! Check out that butterfly!" They'll forget all about whatever tiny, tiny thing that hasn't gone exactly the way they wanted. Just make sure that it's not distracting the kid with candy. That would be a reward. Just find something else to talk about it. I sympathize with you and good luck!

Answer 8

He's three at that age..However, calling him a terror does not help either. You need to be careful what you speak over your child.
Now for the discipline..You need to discipline him, and don't allow him to get away with anything he does that is not acceptable.

Spank his butt..take toys away, and put his behind in timeout. If he continues to get up, put him right back in the time out chair. And let him know, each time he gets up it's longer. You have to be consistent. If you don't learn to control him now, you'll definitely want be able to control him when he gets older. AND don't be afraid to spank that butt!

Answer 9

I recently took a class from a Professor who has a PHD in psycology and he suggested this VHS Magic 1-2-3 by Thomas Phelan. It is dynamite!!!!!

Answer 10

well, my baby brother is 5 and a monster...still is and will be. just think...God blessed you with a child that definitly keeps you on your toes. there is really not much to do other than using maybe these sugestions to say to him;
"you can do it, or i will" "i will count to three and if you dont do as i say you will (fill in the blank)...>time out< >spanking< >take a nap<" or use a sterner voice