how it is that u do somehting that u can get spanked playfully for...and i read in an article that every man has a secret desire to spank his woman and if so how would it happen ..i mean it can't b that u talk abt it and do it..it need to b done in a playful way so how....?
2006-08-03 08:49:59 · 14 answers · asked by baby girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A subject near and dear to My heart.
Depends on how you want to do it, if its just going to be as an enhancement to sex . . . then I'd suggest just doing it during sex, doggy style works well for that, and just use a firm, rhythmic pace. You aren't getting knocked out of the park with the first hit, but just going for a long slow burn.
If you are a girl looking to get spanked . . . crawl over your boyfriends lap, stick your butt up in the air and tell him in graphic detail what a bad bad girl you've been and that you need a spanking. He's likely to comply.
Then it can be a treat all by itself, where its entirely just foreplay, or punishment.
The list goes on and on, but I'll cut it short here.
2006-08-03 08:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a very common fetish... and a great turn on for me... but I don;t necessarily only get spanked as part of sex. I actually prefer a good spanking apart from any sexual activity... to me spanking is safe sex.
If you want a playful spanking for a little naughtiness, for being a brat, its best to talk about it first... otherwise those annoying little things you do to get spanked will just wind up pissing him off. It takes courage to talk about spanking in a relationship, but if you do and both parties agree the payoff is great. You guys can arrange that your single for needing a spanking is when you act like a brat, don't forget to dress the role too!
I prefer roleplay, but some people like to pretend to use spanking as a couple, where he spanks her for not making the bed and things like that. There are other couples who use spanking as a form of domestic discipline, where he as husband has the right to spank her when and for what he fits fit... those aren't usually playful spankings though and I can't really talk too much about it because thats not my lifestyle.
Good luck, I know how frightening it can be to mention to your partner that you like spanking... but like I said, the payoff can be wonderful! If it works ask another question about how to establish and determine limits and the proper use of safewords... I can help you there too.
2006-08-05 03:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key...He needs to know what you want him to do. Most men get off on getting their partner off. Try this: write out a fantasy and buy the implement you would like to be spanked with. then give it to him. If you don't want to be paddled, strapped, or whipped, get him a thin leather glove to use to spank you.
Another way is to propose a game. You each write out a few fantasies on slips of paper. Then take turns picking one.
The final clue is to reward him for spanking you with oral sex. And afterwords (the next morning) tell him what you really liked and what you would like to have him do a little differently....and give him oral sex again.
2006-08-04 22:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not every man that wants to spank his woman - much to the regret of quite a few women - but a good many certainly do, and many more can be coaxed into it. Just wear tight jeans, wiggle your bottom, act a little bit naughty or mischievous, then if he tells you off grin cheekily and say, "What you going to do - spank me???"
2006-08-03 10:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sneak in a light spank when having sex. If she likes it do it more. If she's not into it do something else.
But I've actually talked about spanking with a woman before. She told me she likes to be spanked, so I did, and she enjoyed it, and all was well.
2006-08-03 08:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell the person you desire to be spanked. Sex is all about communication through words as well as physically. Sex first starts in the mind and then flows out to the body.
2006-08-03 08:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could do some fantasy role playing. Put on a little plaid skirt, your tallest heels and a blouse then walk into the principals office and tell him you have been naughty! Believe me he will get the hint and know what to do. Just be sure he respects your limits and you will have a great time. When my hubby and I do this it always leads to great sex after I have been over his knee!
2006-08-03 09:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be mischievious (sp?) When he asks why you are being such a brat respond with "am I being bad? do I need to be spanked?"
You should be dressed in a sexy manner, and he should already have the idea that you are "in the mood" to fool around.
Just a suggestion.
2006-08-03 08:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by greaseman93 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
some people say "i need to get spanked" when they want sex.
u talk u play and then u get a position and SPANK =)
or while having sex or when u want to punish Ur partner(sex).
2006-08-03 08:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to spank her when we are doing it doggy style
2006-08-03 08:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋