what am i to you?

Question

what am i to you?
i asked this guy who made me stood up for him in our supposed-to-be-date.
he can't answer..hell yeah,i know i deserve an explanation even though we are not a couple..
he can't tell me what i am to him..he just called his girl and made me realize that i was just like nothing to him.he should have told me earlier that he already has a girl..is it enough to make me shut up or do i still need an explanation from him? and now,it me who seems to be the ***** that's trying to get in between their relationship though im not..what do you think should i do? im not calling nor texting him since then but now,he's coming back to me..for a reason i don't know...what should i do?

well actually,i've been distancing myself but he keeps on finding a way to find me...now,am i still being a ***** even if im doin the right thing? i told him to stop but still,he keeps on..he told me he has fallen for me but i don't believehim..he's trying to show me how sincere he is but isn't breaking up with her gal..he told me he needs time..but as what i've said,im sticking to my guns..

Answer 1

Stay away from it if you want to feel open and free, like if you were walking down an open field - but maybe someday feel regret?

Or, stay around if you're curious and want to learn a lesson. Which lesson of the hundreds will you learn? Who knows. You might cry, he might cry. You might laugh. You might get pregnate. You might stub your toe and drink a dry martini.

Who knows.

The point is, it's your choice. Either way, the possibilities are hundreds - it's "personal responsability" to grab each and every possibility you can think of, give it a value to yourself, and then act upon those values.

Most people will probably tell you to get away from it, and usually they'll say that because they heard or did it themselves: and ended up getting hurt themselves.

But, until you - as a person - find out the truth, *by yourself*, you will never really know. Do you want to go your whole life thinking about what someone said online, or do you want to find out for yourself?

etc

Answer 2

Its a clear message to TAKE A HIKE. The guy was trying to scam on you while he had a girl on the side. That should be answer enough as to why he never showed up for your "date."

Don't be an idiot and chase after a guy who doesn't deserve the opportunity to lick the bottom of your shoe after you step in dog poop. Forget him and move on.

And BTW, you're only being a ***** or a sl*t or whatever if you continue to hound him for an answer he obviously isn't willing to say (and which, like I've said, you've already gotten in a round-about way). Move on and learn a lesson from this misadventure.

Answer 3

Until he has definitely left his girlfriend, he won't think of you as anything to him more than just a friend. Beyond that if you let him cheat on her with you, you're just as guilty of being a cheat as he is. This time when he comes to you ask him straight up, "Do you want me as a friend, a lover on the side, or what? Until I know where I stand in this relationship, I can't participate in it". If he still hesitates at that point he probably wants you as a girl on the side, but is afraid that if he comes out and says it, you will see that as wrong and you won't cooperate. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Gal now hear this. Why are u stressing ? You don't want him i assume, right. You don't need an explanation, but u should give him a call in a few days. And he is not coming back to you ,as you said he was not yours to Begin with.

Answer 5

YOu should really leave him alone, he already is not completely honest with you, not to mention what he has told his gf. so he is obviously not anything to adore, so look for someone better, as a friend or maybe more, you never know only time will tell. I know you don't want to seem lik the"homewrecker" but if his gf doesn't know about it, and she finds out that is another barrel of monkeys you will have to deal with.

Answer 6

Tell him to leave you the f**k alone & then go tell his girl. Or call the girl & tell her what he's been doing then set his a** up by having the girl listen on 3 way(if u have it?) or when he calls & wants to meet you, bring the other girl with you so she can see for herself. because thats messed up ,he's making you look like the bad one, & if you don,t do nothing about it it's going to look bad on you.

GOOD LUCK GIRL!

Answer 7

What do you want to be to him? Why would you ask if you didn't already know. Careful, you may be headed for self-inflicted DRAMA TRAUMA, mama.

Answer 8

Why are trippin' about the sh**. Move on. If he doesn't mean anything to you then why are you even considering it.

Answer 9

distance yourself from this selfish individual...he wants his Kate and Edith too!

Answer 10

drop him like a hot potato