My best friend is been with this guy that she is crazy about for 2yrs, now they live together and they seem happy. But one thing that is hurting her is in those 2yrs of dating he never said to her he loves her. Like after a phone conversation or a romantic dinner he will never say i love you to her. Whenever she is mad she calls me and i don't want to get in the middle. do you think he loves her or he is wasting her time? Pls be serious thanks.
2006-08-03 08:34:02 · 13 answers · asked by Lady-bug 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
ok well to the question i just asked. I did ask her if he shows her that he loves her instead of saying it. I myself don't believe in words too much. But she is worried about the long term. When she ask him do you see a long term relashion ship with me his answer is maybe and he tells her ya he thinks she is cool as a wife but he is not sure, but 2yrs is too long. Don't you guys thing?
2006-08-03 09:35:28 · update #1
Does she tell him she loves him? If so and He (after 2 years) doesn't return the words, I'd be mad too. She needs to ask him about it instead of putting stress on your friendship.
2006-08-03 08:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Hello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, guys usually, have a difficult time with the words, "I love you." If he shows by his actions that he loves her, then even 'tho he doesn't actually say the words, she should be able to tell.
For instance: does he do nice little unexpected things for her? Call her up, or bring her something out of the blue?
Does he give her little touches of physical affection other than sex?
If he didn't love her, then would he have moved in w/her? If he's treating her well and staying exclusively with her, that is a good indication.
Don't blame you for not wanting to get in the middle!!
2006-08-03 08:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same situation, i've been with my boyfriend a little over a year and he has never said i love you either. I've come to the conclusion he just doesn't want to say it but he does show that he cares for me. He probably does love her he just doesn't want to say it. I listen to the song "More than words" by Frankie J it helps me realize that there is more to a relationship than just hearing I love you.
2006-08-03 08:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by sunfire_prinzes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean by they are living together, are they married or it's live-in relationship? if the guy is sincere then what difference does it make? i fully understand that women do expect declaration of love from their partner at every step, but some men are really caring though they never will express their true emotion,
while some of us will flatter with girls, enjoy their bodies & disappear, what kind of man will u prefer? your freind is the only right person to assess her partners true feelings for her, what feelilngs does he possess for her? BTW how many times she said those words to me , can u tell? ask her
2006-08-03 08:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by gatariking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more about actions. Ever heard the saying that "Actions speak louder than words"?
He's with her, not cheating so what is the problem?
I've been around those couples that are all lovey dovey...."I love you Pookie"..I love you more Schmookie"..and quite frankly that makes me sick...especially when they break up.
Just be a good friend and listen, that's all she wants anyway.
2006-08-03 08:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, I can see here only one solution....your best friend should talk with her guy....just to have a very sincere and honest conversation. Maybe her guy just doesn't know how to express his feelings or he thinks it's not necessary to talk about it, maybe for him the words are not important, only the behavior, the action....The conversation about it should help to understand better each other and their relationships. Good luck!
2006-08-03 08:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really cares about her but love is something really serious to him. He'll say it when he's truly feeling it and means it. That's my opinion. If they have been dating for two years then he's not wasting her time. When he does tell her that he loves her they will really be inseperable.
2006-08-03 08:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Christa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me thank you first because you care about your friend and this is what friendship means.
regarding your friend's boyfriend, the men who never says "i love you" either one out of tow.
he may be in love with her and he is one of those guys who is too tough to say i love you since some men find it a "girl thing".
or he is not really in love with her and he is only trying to show himself that he is someone's casanova. (sorry for that.)
she has to face him and try to get the word,because either ways she is gonna suffer, women loves to hear words more that to see deeds.
good luck, and if you can keep me updated please.
2006-08-03 08:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are not verbally expressive. If it bothers her, she needs to take it up with her boyfriend, not you. You are not part of the situation. If she's been with him for 2 yrs, and they cannot communicate, they don't have much of a relationship anyway.
Tell her to talk to HIM about it and don't allow her to whine to you about it anymore...she needs to deal with that issue with the person it concerns.
2006-08-03 08:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just cant say those words, but does he SHOW her that he loves her, by doing things for her, etc....?
I knew someone married for 15 years and she just got it into her head that he never said "I love you" so she divorced him. Now that she's out dating again, she wishes she had his "love" back.
I'd rather have "showing" love than "telling" love.
Words are cheap.
2006-08-03 08:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋