Well I had an online affair with a girl. And my girlfriend found out 2 weeks after I stoped and told the mistriss that I cant do it anymore, I wanted to be fully commited. My well ex-girlfriend now and I where together for 2 and a half years. I feel like such a moran. For what I did i apoligized a million times I even talked to her parents, to apoligize for all the problems I have caused them and her. I dont wanna lose her. I dont know what to do. Someone please help me I really love this girl. I feel empty with out her. I cant get her out of my head. She keeps saying she needs time to her self. But im afraid she will find someone else.
2006-08-03 08:19:44 · 31 answers · asked by Ryan O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doing whatever I can do to just get her back. She has forgivin me. And says she still loves me alot, and still wants to be with me. She just wants some time and space. And Im giving her that. I feel like such an a$$hole. I have been living with so much guilt. That I just wanna kill myself. I love her so much.
2006-08-03 08:42:25 · update #1
serves you right
2006-08-03 08:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had an on line affair SOMETHING must have been wrong. Maybe you've just been lulled into a sense of security with your old girlfriend and that you just hate change. My advice to you is to re-examine why you had the "affair" in the first place. Maybe your girlfriend wasn't doing HER job and trying to give you some pleasure.
After that, if you still want her back, write her a letter explaining why you did what you did. Be honest, Ask her to take another chance on you.
By the way, ROSES work wonders.
If she doesn't take you back, believe it or not it's not the end of the world. Take a few weeks and try to get her out of your system (I know it won't be easy) then go find another girl. You will be armed with experience of what to do and not to do in a relationship.
Hope this works
Good Luck
2006-08-03 15:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mscott21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the time she's asking for. If she finds someone else, then it wouldn't have worked anyway.
Put your heart into a letter that she can read, and then read again, and give her time to think about it. Tell her that you will do whatever it takes to prove to her that you will NEVER do this again, and then DO WHAT YOU SAY.
This is what happens when you take the kind of chance you did...do you know why you cheated to begin with? Was your love not strong enough that you could resist temptation? Do you want her back out of love, or out of wanting to get back what you lost? Really think through these things, and then do what you have to do to make it right.
If you don't get her back, don't ever EVER forget what made this happen so that you don't repeat it again in the future. Nothing hurts worse than someone you love lying and cheating....put yourself in her shoes, and then get honest with her, and mostly with yourself.
Hang in there, and learn from this.
2006-08-03 15:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with her. You had your "free time" and you used it unwisely. Now, give her hers. If she finds someone in that time, that DOES NOT mean she will find that the grass is greener on the other side (after all, if it is the water bill is still higher). You have to BE PATIENT. IF she loves YOU, she may just need to sort out THAT in itself. IF YOU LOVE HER, then WAIT. AND WAIT SOME MORE. In the meantime, ponder this: Why did that happen to our relationship? DO we need to work on communication? Was I lonely? Or Was I just being plain Selfish? What steps have I taken to correct the problem on my end to make sure that it doesn't happen again (i.e. new IM screenname or whatever)?
She is taking out the time to learn to trust you again. If you do WANT to get her back, the least of your worries is another guy (if that is all you are worried about, you may have already lost her). You just be a distant but loving friend and try to win back her trust little by little by showing her you can BE A RELIABLE FRIEND. Then if she wants you back as her Boyfriend you will be around. But remember to ponder on what changes inside yourself you need to make, so that insecurities like loneliness and not being honest can be discussed openly and not happen again. You need to work on your own faults, too, before you try to compete with her affections again. Otherwise, any MAN who's got all that already inner stuff worked out inside of them is better than someone who doesn't know what to fix or why.
2006-08-03 15:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wont be like the other people and call you a b*@#% because if you talked to her parents and you love her try talking to her but not to much. give her space. dont keep apoligizing try thinking of special ways you can say your sorry, that nobody else would do. leave at least 15 messages saying why your sorry and what caused you to do that. it will work good luck hope i helped.
2006-08-03 15:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she needs time to herself so she can get over you and the way you have hurt her. I am sorry buddie. If a guy cheats on me there is NO WAY he is going to be someone I will talk to again. I will not help you because you need to learn to value something good when you have it. Maybe next time you will use the head on top of your neck and not the one in your pants! Leave her alone so she can find a man who can keep his di*ck in his pants!
2006-08-03 15:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness is more then saying sorry...she needs to be able to trust u again and have her own hurt that u caused her to go away..millions of "sorry" cant make her pain go away and the trust to appear again..give her the space she WANTS..leave her alone and wait...just wait she will call u when shes ready to listen...shes nto gna find someone else just remember it takes longer to fall out of love with someone then in love...so u have time and just let her be their is nothing u can do right now u already did as much as u can
2006-08-03 15:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a problem. Why go after another bone in the reflection when you had a real bone. Never misss the water until the well runs dry. You work it out yourself. Hope you learn your lesson.
2006-08-03 15:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by preferablyyoung 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well if you love her so much you wouldn't have done that in the first place. Maybe she does just need time. Maybe you both need time. Its hard to forgive someone who cheats. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-08-03 15:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by good_gurl_4_no_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why shouldn't she find someone else you were giving the best of you to a computer how do you think that made her feel,that is betrayal at its worst if you want to win her back do as she asks give her time if she finds someone new tough titties buddy you were the one making out with an inanimate object.
2006-08-03 15:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chances are very slim. If she needs time, give her that. If she takes you back, you're one hell of a lucky guy. If not, unfortunately, it is your fault. Go on with your life, treat this as a lesson and hopefully you'll learn from it.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 15:27:16 · answer #11 · answered by Robert L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋