I know i will never be back together or want to be back together with my ex. He cheated on me and hurt me really bad. We both go to the same college and have the same friends. But i feel like i shouldnt hang out with him so that means i cant hang out with all of my other friends. I just want to know when is my life going to get better and when will i be happy. i keep praying but im so scared to go back to college now.
2006-08-03 07:57:51 · 16 answers · asked by jenks1545 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't worry about it, move on...it'll take some time, but u'll feel much better when u realize that ur sexy and u don't need a man to feel that way. Hang out with him and ur old friends and you'll feel great in no time. Good Luck! I hope u find a great guy.
2006-08-03 08:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a hard breakup several years ago, and I didn't start to get over her until I really accepted that we'd never be together again. So I think that's the first step. If you've already reached that point, then you're well on your way.
I've heard it said that it can take half the total time you were together. So if you were together for two years, it would take one year before you really got over your ex. I think that's probably pessimistic. You're right that you shouldn't hang out with him, at least until you're past this. But you'll be all right. Just try to keep yourself busy with other friends.
One other thing: you have to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone else. Don't think that finding a new boyfriend is the solution. It's not.
2006-08-03 15:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dave C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even when your mind knows that you're better off without someone, it's hard for your heart to go along with that, sometimes. Some of the good memories keep popping up, and make you wish you could just ignore the bad ones. I can't give you a time frame, of course, because every person is different, but I did read/hear somewhere the when a person is grieving a person's death (or the death of the relationship), it usually takes around one month for every year that you knew the person for the worst of the pain to be gone. Until then, if you're like me, you'll be giving yourself daily "pep talks" about why there's no reason why you shouldn't be over him...and then eventually, you will be. Good luck!
2006-08-03 15:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, hey hey. You lack self confidence. You do not need friends to live your life. Take your college work seriously, then put friends second. Meaning after college. Trust me, they only care for themselves. Forget your ex, he is not worth your love. You cannot undo the past but make it better by focusing on your future and goals. Try to live with the experience you had and think of it as the worst and go past it. Be happy with who you are and have faith in God. The rest will be history. Good luck.
2006-08-03 15:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by preferablyyoung 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one that cheated on you, you have done nothing wrong and you can't let this effect your having your friends and going to college. I don't know when you will get over him, perhaps when a decent guy starts dating you. But it won't happen if you crawl in a poor me shell, like I have done in the past. I know how it hurts but you are beating yourself up more by this, stop it.
2006-08-03 15:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up. Move on. Life is too short to be hung up over some cheating guy. Wait until these dudes settle down, you can't have love if they cheat. Don't give up any friends or anything. If he is there, so what? Be the tough one here, instead of the victim. Empower yourself. This too shall pass.
2006-08-03 15:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by shestory1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good thing u are not with him u saved the pain that was gna hit u later anyway..me n my ex broke up 3 months ago..and i still think about him everyday and hope he calls me...but i guess u gotta start somewhere or ur never gna end so start trying to find new things that make u happy and get ur mind off him...trust me it DOES get better...i no longer care about him and his new gf as bad as 3 months ago!! 3 months ago it made me sick and depressed..but u take it day by day and things get better..u will be fine!! be strong dont ever be sad over a sluggy loser! u didnt lose anything its his loss...learn from this and move on it made u stronger..much love
2006-08-03 15:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur hurting 'coz u probably still hve a feelings for him... but u juz dont wanna admit it to yourself... don't look frequently at the past 'coz u might miss watever the future brings... you don't have to avoid him neither your friends... hang out with him & ur friends, if he can act like as if nothing happens, so do you... u'll get used to it, then one day you wake up, you totally get over him... don't be afraid to go back to school, that's for your own good... you don't want him to think that he did the decision in leaving you, ryt?
2006-08-03 15:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a very hard time getting over my ex. It took years. PLease don't let that happen to you. You may need to see a therpist. Ad please don't worry about seeing old friends, etc. In the end, it just doesn't matter what people think of you , anyway. Be yourself, and don't hide. you will make new friends, and eventually, you will find someone to date.
2006-08-03 15:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get back to college you need to show him just what a huge mistake he made in cheating on you.go to the salon get a new hairdo,get a kick *** push up bra, cleavage showing top and ultra low rise jeans and make sure to wiggle your bum when you know hes watching and watch as he slips on his own drool the best revenge is looking you're best don't let him see you down.
2006-08-03 15:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋