how do i stop me?

Question

6 years old from winning all day long. she wines about everything and i get very frustrated with her from time to time. i don't know what to do. i put her in time out, spank her, yell at her, take things away but nothing works. she is s good girl other then that please help

thank you all for your help i will try everything you guys said. i don't want to be the mom that yells all day or put her child in time out all day. i want to be the best i can but sometimes it is so hard to control myself. i hope these things work thanks again

Answer 1

I tell you being a parent is tough. USually when a kid whines that much, she is trying to get your attention. Find out what it is that she needs? Do you need to spend some time with her, I know I am guilty of being home but I like to spend my time doing things, like cleaning up after the kids, catching a show (if I am lucky!) But when she whines and has no explantion tell your child to go to her room and that she is not to whine unles she can tell you what it is that she needs. Tell her that you close your hearing when she whines. That she has to talk to be heard. Then maybe she will understand.

I am guilty of the yelling because I get frustrated because my kids want me all the time But I catch myself and I feel terrible but I do apologize for yelling and It makes me feel as though I am missing something, like the point of being home and understanding my kids. Like why are they frustrating me and gosh why am I yelling so much?I think to myself are you out of control? I am not but I feel like I am? So then I ask myself what is the point of being there with my kids if I can't control myself and handle them? Am I being selfish and the sad thing is yes, most of the times I am. I want time for myself. So take time for your daughter and remember that she needs you more than your will ever know.

Tell her that you get after her because that is your job and in order to be a good mommy that it is your job to teach her the things that she needs to know. Make sure to always look her in the eye and be stern with her, no playing because kids take to that.

I am sure that she is a good kid and your a great parent but sometimes they test our will and you have to teach them who is boss, that is the problem with our world today, we have toooo many kids in control and that is why we are where we are and that is why kids are so lost, they need parents to step up to the plate and be in control...

BEst of luck to you!

Answer 2

There may be something physically making her uncomfortable
and whiney. You should verify that that is not the case.

Otherwise, she is whiney because being whiney is effective.
She gets what she wants that way.

At 6 years old, you can certainly tell her that she is whining and
that if she continues to whine she will get a timeout or sent
to bed or whatever - but put where you won't hear her whine.

If she even starts to whine, you let her know that you won't
tolerate it. You still love her, but to-the-timeout she goes.

And you need to be absolutely consistant. You also need to
make sure that others (other parents, older siblings, etc)
are equally non-tolerant.

When whining stops being an asset and starts being a
liability to her, things will change.

However, you have to be consistant - children are pretty good
at knowing how to "play" their parents. You need to make sure
that it is no longer perceived as "play".

Answer 3

The only thing I can think of to try is to come up with a way that she can get her feelings out at a structured time of the day....

Maybe set aside a half hour or hour each day that is her time to express her feelings...she may not whine as much.

Other than that....if she starts getting on your nerves you need to remove yourself from the situation....it doesn't make you a bad mom to leave the room and re-group.

It's worth a try.

Answer 4

I think it's the age. Don't answer when she whinges and ask her to talk in a "normal" voice and you will reply then. Make sure you explain what whinging is. I told my 6 year old to stop whinging and she asked what whinging is. It is a phase for her (and us) to get through. This method cut back the amount of whining my 6 yo did

Answer 5

Try to get her to talk out what's bothering her. Sometimes if children can communicate what's wrong then they are less apt to whine. Also try to get her around other boys and girls her age or older that have good manners.

Answer 6

When I was little and my mom would tell me to stop whining, I didn't know what she meant until I grew up. Now, being a preschool teacher, when one of the children would whine to me, I would whine right back in that same voice saying, "When you can stop whining and talk to me..." then in a normal voice continue "...in a big girl voice, I can help you." I know it gets annoying to hear them whine, but when you whine back, it lets them know what whining is and that it's kinda funny to hear YOU whine! When they laugh, it helps the tension also.

Answer 7

first of all when you yell at your children, they stop listening. ( we are all guilty of it ) the more attention you show her the more she is going to throw these tantrums. i always tell my 8 year old and my 3 year old that if they are going to whine and throw fits to do it in their room because i am not going to listen to it. let her whine but dont give in because thats what she wants. she will eventually get tired of wasting her time and will give up, but you have to stick with it and continue to stick to the same routine..children need consistancy. best of luck to you.

Answer 8

Ignore her whining and start playing with her favorite toy. When she stops whining, then start playing with her, but NOT before she stops whining. She has realized that whining will get your attention, whether it's negative or positive attention, it is still getting your attention.

Answer 9

1. See if him/her has something they have to say to you.
2. See if you or anyone else hurt their feelings.
3. Try to tell him/her crying doesn't solve their problems talking and consoling does.
4. Try to go over priorities and show him/her how to keep them straight.

Answer 10

first of all stop the spanking and try other methods of punisment
and teach her wining is not good and if teach her thats bad then she might stop